Empty nests

[FayeGovan]

Why is it you encourage your kids to go and see the world then feel bereft when they do?

Id never stop them, always encouraged them and said go for it. which they did. But i really miss them and sort of envy parents who keep their adult kids at home ( whilst pitying the kids)

Its daft i know

Have yours gone far OP? ,,,,I have one in Canada, he’s a citizen now , but still comes home about 5 times a year…..I have one round the corner literally who I see almost daily….then a 3rd who comes and goes ( is currently here) ….I SAY I would like some peace and quiet….but not sure about the reality of that 🤔

About 8 hours away.

When they were small i just wanted peace. We never had babysitters and did everything ourselves. It was relentless.

Now that i have peace i want them here.

Mine both left at 21 ( live 300 miles away) and I honestly haven't missed them. See them every 6 weeks, love hearing their adventures and work successes on WhatsApp chat or calls.
My life is very full ( 60s) and I wouldn't have it any other way.

I used to think like this but now my 3 DG are around I wouldn't like it... i love having them close by... I'm 57 so a bit younger than you....do you have older GC

kitcart no gc and probably not for about 8 years. Quite happy with that. Dh has 2 gc but we don't do childcare

Not daft. I want the best for my child. I left home at 18 and became an independent adult and value that about myself.

I want that for her.

At the very same time I hope she never leaves me!

This is the parent paradox.

If she started a family and lived nearby I'd be over the moon.

I didn't, I moved away and that was that.

I'm know what you mean, I couldn't wait for mine to leave home! But now he's never here I do miss him a bit, but when's he's home he does irritate me! so swings and roundabouts?

I still have a primary aged child at home so I think I still get cuddles 🥰

Honestly am looking forward to them both growing up and moving on. I think I just have to keep being social. Although I quite like being alone, pottering and living in a clean house.

It is a paradox indeed

I like peace and quiet and time to myself and im pleased for them they are independent and so grown up. But i just miss having them around....although if they didn't have the guts or inclination to leave home id wonder what i did wrong..