Dd11 consistently has said she doesn’t want to go since she can speak
has talked about drinking events from the afternoon when she is there
often he is not there or goes out and she is left with his wife and step siblings or her parents
dd says he hits his other children and this scares her
dd just doesn’t seem to like him - I think this stems from him not being around and then being quite punitive. Recently dd scratched her arms and he basically had a go at her and told her it was unacceptable. (I’m fuming about this as I had asked him to ensure he reassures her that she is loved and can talk to us all - he has done the opposite). He did this yesterday and then proceeded to take her to a drinking even then left her with his wife’s parents for the night.
i am getting increasingly worried about his level of drinking
iv really tries to encourage her to go abs them to have a relationship but I’m at the point now where I can’t continue to get her to go when she is telling me this! Wwyd ?
i want her to have his side of the family but I also want her to be happy