38yo, married, 2 teenage DS...and I’ve no interest in sex anymore. I don’t know how to explain it apart from saying that I just can’t be bothered. I have a leadership role in a secondary school and am up at 5am every day for work. Yes, the presence of two teenage sons doesn’t lend itself to amorous activity. However, I don’t really feel that these are the reasons. I mean, the way I feel, I suspect that even if I won the lottery and didn’t work and had a massive house so there was no risk of DSs overhearing etc, I still wouldn’t be wanting it. I do it because my DH is a very sexual person and also very emotionally needy and takes it very personally if we go without for more than a week. I pretend I’m enjoying it, because it’s just easier that way, when really I’m thinking how ridiculous all this huffing and puffing is and waiting for it to be over!
Unfortunately it takes my DH a long time to come and so whenever sex starts I know I’m in for the long haul. He has also become more experimental while I am...not. If he had his way, it’d be sex toys and dressing up etc pretty much every night. To me it all seems a bit ridiculous.
I don’t think the issue is entirely him though - even if Daniel Craig propositioned me I just don’t think I could be bothered. I like cuddles etc but feel I’ve become utterly sexually indifferent. Does anybody else feel this way around this age? And if not, any tips please, lovely mumsnetters?! I mean, I’m only 38 and DH is 40s so I need to find a way of getting interested again...