To just like being home?

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I used to be a real social butterfly, always out and about but since I've got older I just love being at home. I like going out for local walks but I feel so much more relaxed when I know I can just be in my all surroundings, cosy and chilled at home. I do suffer from quite bad social anxiety and sometimes I think it's a safety thing and that makes me feel like I should push myself to do more. But even when we have big days out I'm always happy to be home.

I do feel bad for my dc though, like we should be making more memories. I see people going to new and far flung places all the time and while we do keep busy, we don't tend to go far. Aibu to be a total homebody?

I love being at home as well! Well not for long as stbxh left and is selling the home but I’m sure I’ll love my new place.

I’m the same, especially in the winter months.

I’m quite an introvert anyway.

Same here OP. Never happier than when I’m in my own home!

I think since covid I have noticed a massive increase in people going out and doing stuff. Holidays, weekends away, big days out etc. When it gets around to the weekend I just like to chill with dc. My ds usually has a football match and then usually the rest of the weekend is taken up with tv, walks to the park and nice food.

I sometimes feel bad that they don't seem to be doing much. We maybe get in the car and do a big day out (I.e a motorway trip away to a totally different town or city) once every 6 months but I see others doing it every weekend. I just like being home.

Yep, same here, happy at home with my dogs and cats. Don't like too people around me, noise etc

Yep. I mean I pay a lot of my wage to have a home, I should enjoy being in it
Plus all my stuff is here, and a cat so...

I've a very active social life but still value being at home, especially in the dark winter nights.

I used to go out loads but since covid I find myself wanting to spend more time in. I know covid has changed me greatly and my social life, although maybe it is just age im now in my early 40s.

I’m with you, and I was the Monica of the group in my 20’s, always out then always the hostess.

Now I hate having anyone over, prefer to be home by 4pm with the door shut and PJs on

I do feel sad and angry when I read on here about people suffering from hideous neighbours, feral local kids etc. Everybody should be able to feel their home is a haven. With the energy crisis we have, home is less likely to be a comfortable place to be this winter for so many.

I think definitely when we hit our late 40s we slow down a bit more. I'm glad my kids were young when I was younger as I wouldn't have the energy now. I was the one out every weekend with the kids and had the best social life. I only go out once a week now. 😩

I love being at home and resent being bothered by others to go out. I go out and about all over in the day but come the evenings l just want to stay home. I enjoy my garden in the summer and sit inside with my pets and books in winter, l don't have a tv, but never bored, l love the peace and quiet.

I think people got used to having to stay in during covid and are now trapped in by social anxiety.

It's ok to choose to be home.

But if it's an anxiety disorder it's something you should discuss with your gp.

@caroleanboneparte I do think some of it is anxiety related sadly. I tend to get panicky on the way out somewhere. Almost always have to get dh to stop at services when we get in the car to go further afield than our own town because I need the loo or to just stop and have a bit of an anxious moment. Once we get where we're going and on the way back I'm always fine.

i definitely learned to appreciate just being home through the covid lockdowns. I worked though on a ward so I wasn’t home/furloughed or anything.
I found on my days off I enjoyed just being home. Since all that ended I’ve found it harder to get back using my days off to catch with friends/ go out and about and be busy really.

I have probably found a good balance of both again now. But I defo love being at home just enjoying my space behind the door

I wouldn't worry too much about 'making memories' . Your kids are just as likely to remember baking with you or having a bedtime story as a really expensive trip to Alton Towers.
Are your kids sociable extroverts or do they like their home comforts too? How old are they?

I think it’s fine to be a homebody, but as you say some of this is anxiety. Anxiety tends to be progressive, so I would go and see your GP about that.

Yeah I do like the times I'm at home and I kind of look forward to the weekends we have nothing on rather than the weekends we have plans. But on the other hand I do want to do things and tend to put them off because of my anxiety.