To ask you what I need to do?

[Namechanger03]

I was attacked on Friday morning by a mum who goes to my childs school.

She shouted across the yard to me on Friday that another school mum wanted to meet me at the gates. I said no and continued to leave the school yard with my friend.

She drove past us with her partner and as we got round the corner we saw that they had parked their car on the path. As we went to walk past the car her and her partner jumped out of the car and started shouting at us.

She was saying that my 5 year old son had punched her friends 5 year old daughter and given the 5 year old a brain injury. Her partner was screaming at her telling her to punch me.

I tried to walk away and they both got closer to me and my friend so I rang the police because I was frightened. I am 5'1 and weigh 7st and her and her partner are 6ft and easily weigh around 14/15 stone. I feel this is relevant to mention.

My friend tried to take a picture of her partners number plate and he punched my friend in the head and twisted her arm trying to take the phone off her. At this point the woman has grabbed hold of my hair and was trying to punch me in the face.

I was trying to block the blows to my face when she suddenly posed her hand trying to claw my face ( she had her nails done ) and out of sheer fear I grabbed her fingers and bit her fingers. I did not plan this. I was frightened. Shes a lot bigger than me. During this whole time I was still on the phone to the police and was on and off the phone to the police as I had to keep putting the phone in my pocket to defend myself.

She punched me several times and tried to slam my head into a metal gate. I have a massive bruise on my arm where I've out my arm up to stop my head being slammed. We ended up going to hospital for our injuries, my friend needed an xray for her wrist and I needed emergency dental care for my teeth.

At some point the other mum ( whose child apparently has brain damage ) turned up in her car with her partner and they got out and grabbed hold of me too. She only got off me when the 1st mum told her to get my phone out of my pocket because I was on the phone to the police. At this point the other mum backed off and my friend grabbed my hand and we walked off together

During the attack she was screaming that my son had attacked her friends child and was always bullying her child. When her friend turned up she started saying I got my 7 year old daughter to bully her 10 year old daughter ( my childrens school has separate playgrounds for different ages and my child rarely comes across her child ) she then went on to say that I've been bullying her for ages and I'm always laughing at her in the playground and that I'm always posting things on Facebook about her. None of this is true

I got back on the phone to the police and the woman on the phone asked for the womans address. I did not know it but was literally a 2 minute walk from school so walked to school whilst still on the phone and went into school and asked for the address. The teacher at school spoke to the police on the phone and gave them her address and told the police that she is on playground duty everyday with my sons class and there has been no incidents at all regarding my son.

Once we had got off the phone to the police I carried on talking to her and the head teacher came in. They both said there has been no reports made about my son hurting anyone. The teacher on playground duty said his teacher has not had any complaints about him at all and they dont know why they've said these things.

The teacher was in the school yard and heard the 1st mum shout across the yard to me and she said she thinks it was a premeditated attack

None of what she has said is true. I actively avoid the mum in the school yard as around 2 months ago she said my son had hit her son but my son had been off school all week when he had apparently hit her child and school had said at the time she hadnt mentioned it to them ( she came to my house with the 2nd mum and tried to kick off but ended up apologising and I thought it had been left at that. My sons class has 20 pupils in it, 2 teachers and a TA so plenty of eyes to watch out )

Sorry that was long. What do I do from hear? I'm still waiting for the police to come and take a statement. School are adamant none of these incidents have happened at school. If she tries to tell the police lies about Facebook I'm sure they'll ask her for screenshots which she wont be able to produce as I've never wrote anything about her and I certainly dont laugh at her or even speak to her in the playground

What do I do from here? This cannot be sorted out because it's just lies that are being said, they've never reported any of these incidents to the school or to the police ( her boyfriend was screaming in my friends face saying weve been starting on her for months and she comes home every day crying )

I feel ashamed incase anyone believes all of this is true. It really isnt. Shes a compulsive liar. Theres somthing wrong with her mental health.

We picked our children up early on Friday and school had said the child with an apparent brain injury was in school that day and the parents hadnt been in to speak to them about my son.

I'm worried about going to school on Monday incase I'm attacked again.

What can I do from bere? Everything that has been said is an outright lie and school can and has backed up that they have seen no incidents, no child has complained to them and no parent has complained to them either

School have offered for us to pick and drop our children off early every day but I dont want to live my life like this for the foreseeable future and I think it needs sorting out properly

My friend has suggested getting a meeting with school with all us parents and school telling the Male partners that there have been no incidents.

I know this all sounds really scummy and chavvy, I am not a fighter I dont gob off at people I keep myself to myself and my son is just a 5 year old boy. I've never had any complaints about him, he gets invited to a lot of birthday parties, children run to him and hug him in the school yard and are excited to see him, school are adamant they havnt seen him hurt anyone havnt had any child or parent complain about him.

So where do I go from here? I'm waiting for the police and I assume they will be arrested. But their clearly mentally unstable and I just dont know how to handle this situation

So sorry it's long and if you got to the end then thank you for reading

Well, pursue getting them arrested for assault as a first step.

This is horrible, op. I don't know what advice to give.

I would take the offer of early drop off and pick up as you don't want kids seeing anything.
I'd be demanding the people involved are banned from school property to be honest if anything happens there.
Definitely pursue police about the assault.
And keep school on side!!!!

Is it at all possible for you to drive, or someone to drive you, to and from pick up/drop off, ideally parking as close to the gates as possible so you can be seen by school staff as you leave? At least until you know what action the police will take? Maybe seems silly if you live close enough to walk, but your safety is more important, much harder to get to you in a locked car than walking down the street.

Police first, then contact the school.

I'm waiting for the police to come and take a statement. I rang 101 earlier and asked when someone would be out to see me as it had been over 24 hours. They apologised for the wait and said someone will ring me tonight.

I hope you have taken photographs of your injuries. I'd have gone direct to the police station - not called 101.

supadupapupascupa

Yes me and my friend have both said we will, it's just not somthing I want to do long term. I dont want to be frightened everyday.

Can i ask school to ban them? I dont know if they will,

School are very much on our side. Their horrified at what's happened. I moved up here fleeing domestic violence, i came here to start a new life for me and my kids.

I'm frightened If they hurt me again I'm going to be seriously injured. I'm a petite woman, I dont know how many more blows to the head I can take before I end up seriously hurt. I dont want my kids to grow up without their mum

Loics

Unfortunatly me and my friends do not drive. My other friend has offered to walk to my house everyday and then walk me home. This will mean she is late for work everyday though ( she hasnt mentioned being late )

StoneofDestiny

I rang 999 as it was happening and the police stayed on the phone during the entire attack and whilst I went to school and got their details. I rang 101 today to see what was going on

Me and my friend both have pictures of our injury and both have hospital records of them and I also have dental records too

You need to press charges, do not back down.

I'm so sorry this sounds terrifying, I can't believe these people exist.

The school also need to speak to them and their partners and explain there have been NO ISSUES of bullying.

Make sure the police pursue charges. Then ask the school to arrange for other child to be collected early/later, from the gates not on school grounds.
I would also be making a report to child services. That level of violence does not sound like a one off. If they have children the violence could be happening at other times aswell.

So sorry to hear this, it sounds awful. We had a much less severe incident happen on school grounds, which did go to court, and the offending parents were banned from the playground/ school grounds in the meantime and had to drop off and collect their children at the school office. It should be the offending party that are inconvenienced, not you and your friend!

Can you get a restraining order?

I would ask the HT and your child's Class Teacher to meet with the 2 sets of parents (without you there) and tell them your son has done nothing to their child. They need to know that school are aware of the incident and that violence, aggression and shouting at people in the playground will not be tolerated. If there is a recurrence of any of this behaviour, then those parents will be banned from school grounds.

ON a personal level, I would get one of those personal alarm thingys, the ones where you keep it in your hand when you're walking to/from school and set it off if they come within a metre of you.

I'm sorry this happened to you @Namechanger03, it sounds incredibly scary and I totally understand you feeling worried about what's going to happen going forward. I hope that the Police follow through and these awful people are prosecuted and punished for their horrific behaviour. It's quite ironic really, that they are angry about bullying, isn't it?

How terrifying OP, it's the stuff of nightmares. I hope you and your friend are ok. Good that school are supportive, that the phone call to the police will be recorded no doubt and you have photographed injuries, that there's hospital logs and the likes. You poor thing. Will be keeping up with your updates, in support and solidarity of you.

I hope those adult bullies are held to account too.

Oh op that all sounds awful
I hope you are able to feel safer soon.
I agree with the other posters, continue pursuing charges with the police. I wouldn’t entertain having a meeting with the other parents at the school. However, I think the school should be meeting with them and setting things straight.

So you rang 999 whilst being attacked (which they presumably heard) but no one was dispatched immediately?

I rang 999 as it was happening and the police stayed on the phone during the entire attack and whilst I went to school and got their details

But the police didn't turn up and you had to ring 101 to follow up??

Coconutcream123

Me and my friend are definetly going to press charges. It could of ended so much worse. Theres always stories in the papers about someone being punched in the head once and dying. I couldnt sleep last night because I just kept thinking what if that had happened and my kids ended without a mum.

My friend suggested suggesting a meeting to explain to the Male partners that it wasnt true. I need to speak to school on Monday anyway so will mention this

LadyVic

My mum said the same about making a report to child services, she said she felt sorry for the children living with parents like that. The teacher that I spoke to who was on playground duty and spoke to the police for me is the schools child protection safety officer person so I assume she will have made a call as she was horrified about what had happened

cadentiasidera

I'm sorry you've had an incident too. It's to scary isnt it. Did the family leave you alone after the police were involved?

Hankunamatata

I hope so, I'm definetly going to ask the police for somthing. School said its harassment as they've been to my house before. They did say I should of reported the first incident though which I didnt as I assumed we had sorted it between ourselves

OliveWah

I really want to ask school to get involved properly, in worried the next time my children will be with me or what if they try harming my son?

I may look at an alarm. I had a look online last night for legal self defence items but nothing is legal if your going to use it as self defence 🙈

ShellfishCrocodile

Thank you. We're both really shook up. My friend has a sprained wrist and I've had a constant headache since this morning. I'm worried I have concussion. Yes I'm assuming the phone call will be recorded and that I'll be able to use it as evidence in court

Lj8893

Yes I think school should have a meeting but I dont partically want to be there. I've already imagined being trapped in a small room and them trying to attack me, I wouldnt be able to get away. I can just imagine myself trying to hide behind one of the teachers 🙈

CrossUniStudent

I am newish to the area. I moved here fleeing DV. I know the road name but it's a massive long road going from one town to the next, it has over 250 houses on it & shops on it. The woman on the phone was asking where I was and I was trying to describe where abouts I was whilst trying to block a 6ft woman from punching me in the head.

ilovemyspace

I assume they didnt come as we managed to get ourselves to a safe place. This all happened at school time traffic, cars were nearly at a standstill driving past whilst it was going on

I feel like the last 2 posters are insinuating I'm lying because the police didnt show up. I live in a very rough area, it was peak time for traffic and we managed to get ourselves to safe place. They stayed on the phone whilst getting the womans details from the teacher at school.

I know it's not right that you should have to go through hassle due to aggressive criminals but if I was in that situation then I would be tempted to move schools and keep the move and where I have gone very quiet.

This sounds horrible - sending you lots of love