This sounds really silly but i just dont understand it and need someone elses views (theres not really any friends of family i can ask without people being nosey and gossiping)
About a week ago my DH of 10 years phoned when he was at work and said he had bought me a cake. When he came home he said put the kids to bed and I'll get your cake which I did. Then he said make me a cuppa tea and ill get your cake which I did. We sat watching TV then I was sorting washing tidying kitchen etc then he said go up stairs and get me a clean t shirt and I'll get you your cake which I did. By this time it was after 10pm and I said I'm just going to my bed im done waiting for a cake lol I felt like he was playing a game? The next day I asked where the cake was and he said he will make it upto me and buy me flowers.
We've hardly spoke all week, hes really busy with work, been doing loads of hours and hardly home but i thibk he goes to the shop to buy his lunch / juice but no flowers or cake lol. I don't know if AIBU?
Yesterday I had a bit of a bad morning for various reasons.. bad news at an appointment a few other things plus a little bit of day to day stress which didnt help. but I had a good cry picked myself up so by school pick up time I was OK. I told DH I was feeling a bit low but I had chocolate a cry and ill be fine. I was looking forward to him getting home. He text on way home to say on the way home love you my princess cant wait to see you something along those lines.
I went food shopping got myself a bottle of wine, friday night treats for our family movie night. Got him a few things he likes. Ordered take away. He got home about 7pm he went straight upstairs . So I was downstairs juggling feeding our 4 month old, 3 year old climbing all over me. Arguing with our 5 year old. Getting thrm orgonised for bed. DH was in his bed he was sorting stuff out for work on his phone. I asked him for kids pjs but he was busy onnhis phone so i got them myself. About half an hour later I had 2 kids nearly sleeping on me our other child was saying there was someone at the door so I shouted DH I think that's dinner at the door.
He ran down and started shouting swearing that no one is at the door I better not start my shite tonight he said if you start with your fucking attitude I'll fucking rip you to pieces can't be bothered with your shite he will fucking rip me apart. I burst out crying and when dinner arrived I had completely lost my appetite.
It was already an emotionally hard day and for him to not be there to support me instead he said he thought telling me he would rip me apart would snap me out of whatever mood he thought I was in.
So I put the kids to bed. He was lying accross the couch watching Tv. The kitchen was a mess so I spent 20 mins or so tidying and cleaning it up then I went to bed.
Hes away to work today I'm home with the kids he's been on the phone as if nothing has happened he's asking what's wrong why am I not talking much asking if I'm upset????? AIBU to expect him to apologise. If I tell him what's wrong with me I will end up crying we will end up arguing but I don't want to spend the rest of the weekend in a bad atmosphere either. If I act like nothing is wrong he will thing he's done nothing wrong