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To expect my children to play?!

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giraffes2021 · 12/11/2022 11:01

So my children are 4 (almost 5) and 2 (almost 3) and my god they are driving me and my partner up the wall lately they just do not seem to play!!!! They are constantly like I'm bored I'm bored wandering round like lost souls!
I think it's our own fault as normally we entertain play with them make sure they have stuff to do etc but we can't get anything done or seem to get a minute! Is it normal? There are plenty of toys and colouring about etc plenty for them to do but it just seems like they can't just play.
Is this normal as I'm about to loose my mind hahahaha

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gillybean89 · 12/11/2022 11:04

My 2 are exactly the same and also driving me mad (but that could also be tiredness!). They are 5 and 2 (nearly 3) and are absolute whirlwinds, they tear through the house causing destruction everywhere but don't actually seem to play with any of the things they get out!
No advice but solidarity here. These ages are hard I think.

Natsku · 12/11/2022 11:05

If you've always played with them a lot then maybe they just haven't learnt yet how to play by themselves, or they've learnt that moaning they're bored gets them what they want. My 4 year old is really good at playing by himself and I think that's partly because when he stopped napping I didn't stop nap time, it just became 'play quietly in your room' time, can you do something like that? You'll have to start with short periods of time and build up if its something new.

VladmirsPoutine · 12/11/2022 11:12

Grin you've spoilt them with the good life! If mum and dad are always on hand to make things exciting then they'll never really need to seek out their own fun. They're far too young for what I used to do with my then 7 & 10yr olds which was to offer them some chores but hopefully it will get better - keep telling them to play with eachother because you're busy.

Needmorelego · 12/11/2022 11:15

Give them something they can do on their own (pile of Duplo or something). Start off playing with them but say something like "Ok I'm just popping to the loo so build me a house while I am gone" and just wander off.
It might work....

giraffes2021 · 13/11/2022 09:27

Thanks for the tips everyone I think your right we've done too much with them that they can't use their imagination enough!!

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Mamoun · 13/11/2022 09:34

To be fair my children were a little bit like this but now (6 and 4) much much better.
We started to force them to do some quiet time independently and together and slowly they found their "thing"

Mamoun · 13/11/2022 09:39

giraffes2021 · 13/11/2022 09:27

Thanks for the tips everyone I think your right we've done too much with them that they can't use their imagination enough!!

To be fair there are different personalities in children and some will play for hours and some not! So parts of it is also accepting that they might not be the "play for hours alone type" & maybe more extrovert type who enjoys company more than anything else.
You can also play for a bit and be very much present with them ans then say "right now I have something else to do so you need to do something alone"

NerrSnerr · 13/11/2022 09:50

My eldest has never really been one to just play. She needed entertaining when young but now she's 8 she'll read, do something on her iPad, do gymnastics or find something to entertain herself. My 5 year old could play for hours. Children are different.

Dillydollydingdong · 13/11/2022 09:53

The best toy is another child to play with. Maybe invite a friend in to play?

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