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To go to the pub?

10 replies

TimeAtTheBar · 12/11/2022 09:53

Until recently I worked in a local pub so I know all the managers/staff in the other venues and a lot of the regulars. I’ve changed jobs to a 9-5 (ish).

I have a half hour/hour wait after work before my bus home so I usually pop to the pub next door, I’m good friends with the landlord and know all the bar staff and there’s usually someone in there I know to sit with. Some days I’ll have a glass of wine but I’ll often just have a coffee. DH and I also ‘go to the pub’ as a night out, any of the pubs in town. We’ll always know lots of people out so it’s never just the two of us, if we want that we’ll stay home.

I’m just musing on it really as two of my colleagues said yesterday that they wouldn’t dream of going to a pub on their own and that nights out/date nights would be dinner out or a cinema trip or something so it’s just them. One of them (older) said it was a bit tacky really; a woman going to the pub on her own.

I’m just wondering now if I’m some sort of weirdo. Is going to the pub not a thing now? Kids are older/adults and DH does his own thing most weekday evenings so I’m not utilising family time or anything.

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mrsbyers · 12/11/2022 09:55

It’s not weird at all especially as you know people there , some people are quick to forget what it’s like to be an independent woman so all power to you for doing what YOU want

OutDamnedSpot · 12/11/2022 09:56

Not weird. They’re showing their lack of confidence. I love going to the pub (or cinema, dinner, whatever) on my own.

LadyKenya · 12/11/2022 09:59

Personally I would not go to the pub by myself, but I would not think anything of a woman doing this.

girlmom21 · 12/11/2022 10:02

It's fine. You're not even really there alone.

ApolloandDaphne · 12/11/2022 10:06

I'm 60 and would happily sit in a pub by myself and have a drink or a coffee. People who say otherwise are the weird ones.

AuntieMarys · 12/11/2022 10:06

They are being utterly ridiculous. "Tacky" indeed.
What an attitude to have.
I have friends who refuse to meet inside a bar...they wait on the pavement outside until others arrive.

Davros · 12/11/2022 10:17

I'm 62 and have often popped to the shops and had a pint on the way home

yorkshirebird2382 · 12/11/2022 10:22

Why does it matter what anyone else thinks?
If you enjoy going that's all that matters?
Do you negatively comment on what they choose to do with their time?
Life's too short. Do what makes you happy and don't worry about other people's opinions.
You are not hurting anyone!

TimeAtTheBar · 12/11/2022 10:29

Ok thank you all. I am just feeling a bit judged, it’s a new role (and I’m the boss!) and I’m finding my feet. In my last job going to the pub, having a drink after work, was absolutely standard. I made an error in even mentioning it I think as they were appalled 🤣

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roarfeckingroarr · 12/11/2022 10:31

I go to the pub alone all the time if I have a bit of time to kill. Glass of wine, book, chat with locals - what's not to love.

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