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AIBU?

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To just call it quits?!

3 replies

themesmor · 11/11/2022 22:35

Been best friends with somebody for over 14 years - since before high school!

Recently, she's been very distant with me, and I've been trying so hard to get things to work, organise a coffee or just get talking..

Basically, I had a really rough time back in February this year. During that time I was hospitalised, and then took around a month to recover at home. For this reason I barely saw anybody other than DH, but still tried my best to keep text / call conversations going with my best friend.

She moved house around the same time as me, and very quickly became friendly with the neighbour next door, who's just a few years older than us. She has gone from popping over there occasionally, to meals out, nights out, sleepovers (?) etc etc.

I know how it's going to sound, but I feel so hurt. It's like I've been forgotten about all of a sudden and no matter what I do I just can't shake this strange sad feeling 😔

I've been so upset over it tonight - as I've seen they're both out and the new friend has put the caption of 'best friends' - i know I sound like a jealous horrible person, but I just feel so down. I am totally fine with her having other friends.. it isn't even that. It's just how quickly this seems to have materialised and how quickly it seems she's able to drop me.

She new friend seems to also be a bit of a user. Borrows money from my friend, drops the kids on her at the last moment, etc etc.

I'm just sad that this could be the end of our friendship.. but I honestly don't have the fight left in me anymore to carry on.

OP posts:
themesmor · 11/11/2022 22:44

Sorry. My AIBU is:

Would it be unreasonable to just call it quits now? I can't take much more of the hurt and upset. Why is loosing a friendship just as bad as a relationship breakdown?! ☹️ we've done everything together

OP posts:
ladydimitrescu · 11/11/2022 22:47

It doesn't have to be the end of the friendship, but you need to accept she has another close friend and isn't just yours anymore.

Rustyhandlebars · 11/11/2022 23:05

Distance yourself, full on friendships usually end fast.

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