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Is anyone here a welfare/attendance officer?

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user0786 · 11/11/2022 19:37

Posted on AIBU for traffic.

Is anyone here a welfare or attendance officer at a school?

I've just started a new job as an attendance officer and I've found this week rewarding but very very busy.

Any tips/tricks to help raise student attendance and dealing with difficult parents?

Thanks in advance

OP posts:
Wereongunoil · 11/11/2022 19:39

I used to be. What age are you working with?

thenewaveragebear1983 · 11/11/2022 19:39

I was until about 2 weeks ago. Secondary yr 9 to yr 13.

lifeturnsonadime · 11/11/2022 19:40

Any tips/tricks to help raise student attendance and dealing with difficult parents?

Please be aware that there are many children who don't attend school because their special needs are not being met.

Some children are traumatised by school.

Fining parents for this kind of absence is inappropriate an ableist.

Hurdling · 11/11/2022 19:42

Make sure you know about how difficult it is for sen children to get support and how traumatic school can be for them

user0786 · 11/11/2022 19:54

Sorry I forgot to mention. It's secondary school aged kids.

How can we work with children who are suffering with MH problems/are SEND students to get them in school in particular?

OP posts:
lifeturnsonadime · 11/11/2022 19:56

How can we work with children who are suffering with MH problems/are SEND students to get them in school in particular?

Sometimes you can't. Because it would harm them.

The parents aren't being difficult. They are trying, desperately, to keep their kids safe.

Please listen to the parents.

AuntieDickhead · 11/11/2022 19:57

As the parent of a school refuser for MH issues please please please treat us with compassion. I'm doing my best, but speaking to me like I'm a twat and/or liar makes it hard for me to engage too.

I'm sure there are parents out there who don't actually care, but most of us are desperate to get our DC back into school

neverbeenskiing · 11/11/2022 20:13

Any tips/tricks to help raise student attendance and dealing with difficult parents?

This is far to complex an issue to be reduced to 'tips and tricks'. If you're looking for quick fixes there aren't any. You really need to understand the barriers to regular school attendance, and the specific groups that are most affected.

You need to understand SEND, especially neuro-divergance and SEMH issues. You need to read into Emotionally based school avoidance, trauma and the cycle of anxiety. If your school is not meeting the needs of kids with SEND effectively, ensuring they feel safe and supported, offering reasonable adjustments and ensuring these are applied consistently in all classes but is then threatening parents with fines when their kids don't come in, things are going badly wrong.

You need to understand the lived experience of Young Carers, care-experienced children and child refugees/asylum seekers. Ask yourself what is the school doing to support these children and families with the challenges they are facing, could you be doing more?

You need to understand that attendance can be a safeguarding issue and that poverty, parental mental health issues, criminal exploitation and gang culture, neglect, substance misuse, CSE and domestic violence can all be factors in persistent non-attendance.

You also need to understand that some "difficult parents" are difficult to deal with for a reason. They may have their own needs and vulnerabilies. They may have been let down by the system many times. You need to work with them, not against them. You need to be non-judgemental and recognise that they are the experts in their own children. Listen to them, offer support and practical help but don't patronise them or be intrusive.

Schools need to be flexible, compassionate, inclusive and understand that if they get it right for the most vulnerable kids then all kids benefit. That's how you raise attendance. It's not something that one person can achieve, you need a supportive and forward thinking LT or you're fighting a losing battle.

Lou882001 · 16/11/2023 08:27

Hi OP, just wondering how you settled into this role? I’m considering applying for the same job. Thanks

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