Help me hand my notice in please

[TropicalTenticle]

I have to hand my notice in at 1pm today. I have my letter typed out but boss is phoning me at 1 for what she thinks is a 'check in'. I don't have a close relationship with my manager and an even less close one with her manager (he's not a nice person and has bullied me in the past). My line manager is nice though, we just don't click very well and conversations are a bit awkward. Due to the way my male manager has treated me in the past, I'm really scared to hand my notice in. I feel sick. My heart is in my mouth. I'm shakey. I don't know why! I've never been like this. I've always felt really comfortable having awkward conversations. Has anyone else ever felt like this? I feel like I need a glass of wine. Help!!

It can feel scary but try to remember loyalty is a two-way street - your employer probably wouldn't think twice about getting rid of you if your job could be done cheaper by a computer or someone in another country.

Part of their job will be to find out why you're resigning so be prepared to answer as honestly or dishonestly as you like, just have the answer ready, even if it's a straightforward "I don't wish to discuss it." Even if the reason you give is "I've got an offer elsewhere" they would probably like to know why that offer is better - better pay, better prospects, flexible hours or whatever.

My best advice is to remember that even if it's an unpleasant experience today, soon you won't be working with these people anyway. In a month or two you won't be worrying about what happened the day you handed in your notice.

(Is there a pub nearby?)

Seriously though, you have to gather all your courage and just do it. If there are repercussions that's on them.

The ultimate protest at the regime is to leave to blossom elsewhere.

I work in HR so Im often on the other end of this. Just preare what you're going to say.
Something like, I would like to hand in my notice. I have secured another job and XXX will be my last day.
I will work hard to prepare a complete handover and and willing to help train my replacement before I go to make the transition as smooth as possible for the company.
I have put this is writing here.

The manager might be a bit annoyed and try to talk you out of it but if you've made up your mind to go then just stick to it and don't be swayed.
BTW that fact that you've been bullied and feel sick to hand in your notice means that you are right to be leaving.

Good luck

Yes. Best wishes.

These people won't be your problem for much longer. All the best. Xx

Work out exactly what you're going to say on the phone first -
something like "thanks for checking in with me, I've actually been wanting a chat. I've got a new role which is a bit of a step up/closer to home/better hours/etc. I'm really sad to leave, you've always been a very supportive manager, but my last day will be on the XXXX

I'm afraid I don't have any real advcie to give, but i'll be a pound to a penny by about 1:30 when alls said and done you'll feel much better about it all! I think you just have to take a deep breath and get it done - and hey, what's the worst they can do? Sack you?!

Why are you waiting till 1 to hand your notice in. Just email it to your nice line manager. If nasty boss then calls at 1, simply say 'I'm not sure if you are aware but I handed in my notice today.' if you don't want to discuss reasons etc you can follow up with 'I'm happy to do an exit interview at the end of my notice'

It's a bit shit to just email it without having a conversation first.

Keep it short and polite.

I've decided to move on from Aldi (insert employer here) I've written a formal resignation letter and I'm going to email it to you now but I wanted to let you know before sending you it.

I did not phone first, just emailed. Keep it short and simple as manager was awful, he emailed back acceptance and it was done. Good luck

Shit to who? You? Or the workplace that has made you feel like this?
Just email and enjoy the relief.
if manager says anything on the phone just say "oh! I thought I would give you a heads up rather than springing it on you in this call"
They don't own you! And never have.
Good luck

Hi, just wanted to let you know before I send the email, I've been offered another position at xyz and have decided to take it so I will be leaving on the 12th of December.

I'll miss everyone of course but I really need flexible hours/higher pay/insert benefit here and a change is always good. Thanks for all your advice and support/insert pleasantries here.

Email it first. As a manager I’d prefer that! Then I could decide what to say in advance.

Dont forget that you can always hang up if it gets tough. What can they do… fire you??? Claim technical issues.

"Dear Employer,

It is without regret that I am unable to tolerate working here any longer.

Regards
TropicalTentacle
Xx"

'And the CFO is an asshole.'

Yours is the letter I wanted to send with addendum above but in the end I just said the commute is getting too much.

Just email the notice in, there is no real reason to do it over the phone

Good luck OP (my advice would be to have the glass of wine which is why I'm sticking to well wishing 😁)

Tho I have to say as a manager I did get notice by email with a message saying they wanted to give me chance to digest it/process it/scream into a pillow before we spoke which I appreciated as it gave me chance to compose myself before we spoke in person

How did it go OP?

Manager didn't even really acknowledge that I was leaving. Didn't ask about the role. Didn't say congrats. Didn't thank me. Nothing. Just 'OK ill let HR know'. Bit surprising but at least it is done now.

No it’s not. It’s not 1970

Well, it doesn't matter now as I have officially resigned.

Well done OP have a big congratulatory drink tonight!! The underwhelming bitter response from your boss was a great example of why exactly you were so right to get the hell out of there!!

Well done OP, onwards and upwards :)