it’s my niece’s Christening on 20th Nov. She is the same age as my DD which is 5 months. Thing is - my DD hates the car seat, she can tolerate a short ride (30 min) whilst asleep or if I’m constantly shaking rattles in her face but DH’s family is 3.5/4h away (if there’s no traffic) DD screams in the car, chokes, vomits, chokes on vomit (she has reflux) and then screams some more until she ‘s shaking and sobbing plus we have to stop when she chokes obvs. 20th is also my Birthday. AIBU for not wanting to drive with my DD but instead asking my DH to go? He says he’s not leaving me on my Birthday but I really can’t think of anything worse than sitting in the car for 4 hours whilst DD hysterically cries on my Birthday.