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To withdraw consent for photos for dc at school

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ShouldntHaveBeenSoHasty · 10/11/2022 11:18

I agreed consent for photos for my dc at their primary school when they joined a few years ago. I didn’t think anything of it and assumed you only withhold consent if you have quite serious safeguarding concerns as I know it’s probably a bit of a pita for the staff to be sorting out kids who have/ haven’t got permission if loads of people decline just for the sake of it.

But my kids photos have been used in every piece of promotional material for the school. If they ever visit local businesses it will be my kids front and centre in the photos. I think it’s a bit ridiculous and it’s probably a bit irritating for other parents too. I’m under no illusions that it’s because my dc are particularly photogenic or anything, it’s just because they’re the only mixed race kids in an otherwise entirely white school.

Would I sound like a dick if I point this out to the school or withdraw consent? The school probably haven’t even realised or if they have they’ll think they’re doing a good thing by pushing my dc forward as it’s “inclusive” or whatever.

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PurpleButterflyWings · 11/11/2022 11:26

@ShouldntHaveBeenSoHasty

You're not being unreasonable. My DCs school used to do this... When they were at senior school, there were 900 children in the school, and you could literally count on the fingers of two hands the amount of non white children. Four mixed race children, a couple of black children and three Asian children - out of 900.

There was a big billboard, maybe 10 foot high and 20 foot wide by the front gates at school, with seven children on it, jumping up and looking happy and having fun and smiling, with 'COME JOIN OUR WONDERFUL SCHOOL' emblazoned above them ! SIX out of the seven children were mixed race, Asian or black. Literally six out of the seven children. ONE white child. Even though only 1% of the children in the school were non-white.

It genuinely smacks of trying to desperately be politically correct and it's pathetic. It's also giving a wrong impression of the school and suggesting there's a massive complement of non white children there, when there's literally less than 10 out of 900.

If they want to be more inclusive then try to encourage many more black and Asian children there. Don't do fuck-all to encourage them to join your school, have 99% white children, and then pretend you're all inclusive and politically correct, by having just ONE WHITE child out of seven children on your colossal billboard.

It's like these big companies - like the BBC. They promote how 'woke' and politically correct they are, (along with the producers of most adverts,) because there are so many non white faces on the TV. Yet you rarely ever see any at the top of the company, and running the place, and very VERY few of the big executives will be black, mixed race, or Asian. It'll be run by overprivileged white men. Want to be more fucking inclusive? Stop letting the vast majority of your high, privileged, and super well-paid positions be taken by white males.

Going back to your dilemma OP. I would absolutely take away the consent as well, seen as they're letting businesses use your childrens images to put on their Facebook pages!!! What the actual fuck have I just read? Definitely withdraw consent.

catandcoffee · 11/11/2022 13:05

Do it OP.

YellowHpok · 11/11/2022 13:30

We withdrew consent after a previous school went mad on twitter in the run to to an ofstead inspection. Every day an new tweet with pics of the kids in class. It was way over the top. We rescinded consent and told them why. All fine.

New school much more respectful of photos but we still refused consent for external photos and they have been absolutely fine about it. Never asked why.

LondonWolf · 11/11/2022 13:52

That would really irritate me. Yes I would withdraw permission and I would say why too!

PurpleButterflyWings · 11/11/2022 13:54

After reading some of the comments on here, I am SO glad mine were at school before bloody facebook/twitter/instagram/snapchat/tiktok/youtube etc! The pics and videos of them in school plays/sports days etc were only on the school's website.

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