My husband and I split in the summer, and we only told the kids around 6 weeks ago, once he had sorted a flat to rent. He moved out about 5 weeks ago and our two girls started staying over at his house about 4 weeks ago (we tried to do this gradually but they were really excited to go). We have been amicable so far and want to co-parent with the girls best interests at heart.
My youngest has a friend in her class (let’s call her Jade) where I don’t know the mum (met her once) - my husband used to do majority of pick up and they met in the park this year (spring). This mum is single too. After we split up, (but before we told the girls), she asked him to give her a lift to college. He did not tell me this, but my eldest came home crying about it because she obviously thought something was going on between them as she was saying she was worried we were going to split up.
I thought it was weird this woman would ask him for a lift when they haven’t known each other a long time (we don’t live far from the college/loads of buses).
Today my daughter says, I’m going to have a sleepover at Jade’s house and daddy is coming too.
I ring my husband to clarify and he says yes, Jade asked my daughter and they are all going to sleep over there (my oldest daughter too). I find this so weird, and I don’t feel at all comfortable with them sleeping over somewhere where I don’t know the family at all, and he doesn’t know the family very well. (My daughter has never slept over anywhere before that isn’t family). I have explained that sleeping over someone’s house is something you build up to over years, and I would never think this is an appropriate thing to do. I think it’s confusing for the children to involve someone else of the opposite sex in staying over.
We had agreed that we would not introduce any new relationships for at least a year of dating. He swears there is nothing going on with this woman, and that they are just friends. Regardless of whether this is the case or not, I STILL would not be comfortable with him letting them stay over in someone else’s house (alone OR with him) and I think it’s just so strange that he thinks this is a normal thing to do for them all.
Would appreciate your opinions.