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Talk to me about anti anxiety medication please

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bottomsup22 · 09/11/2022 20:09

Anxiety has been flaring up for a while now. I'm having attacks more and more often. My triggers are usually new and unfamiliar places or situations. Last week my dh and I took dc to a seaside we haven't been to before and I had an attack in the car. Then I took my eldest to a bonfire and had an attack there.

I also struggle with things like appointments, long car journeys, visiting other peoples homes. It's getting worse. My symptoms are panic, sweating, racing heart and retching. But the worst one is an urgent need for the loo (classic fight or flight) which makes me even more panicky if we are on the motorway or in a place where there are no toilets. It's getting where I only feel happy and safe if I'm in a familiar routine and familiar surroundings which is really affecting my quality of life.

So with this in mind I'm thinking of speaking to my GP about starting medication. I took citalopram for about a year before I became pregnant and although it didn't really cure my issues it did help me to feel stronger and have more of a 'fuck it' attitude. It made me very groggy and killed my libido though which wasn't great.

I wondered if anyone has any other advice or experience about what medication or techniques helped them with panic and anxiety? If I could avoid medication I would but I feel like I'm passed the point of exercise and good diet now. I can't get this overthinking under control and it's impacting on my life. My dc are missing out because I don't want to go places. The sad thing is I do want to but I feel unable because of the fear of a panic attack/toilet incident.

Any tips about medication or other techniques would be amazing. I did try CBT but it was useless.

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Brieeeeeeeee · 09/11/2022 20:17

Have you thought about EMDR therapy?

MiniDinosaur · 09/11/2022 20:19

Your GP may prescribe beta blockers for the symptoms you describe. Well done on tackling it, I know how debilitating anxiety can be.

Forestflies1972 · 09/11/2022 20:23

I take 10mg of escitaloprám and its been a massive help to me. The 1st week was tricky with an increase in anxiety and trouble sleeping but it soon settled down. It hasn't decreased my libido, if anything that's improved! I actually don't think it's given me any side effects.

kitnkaboodle · 09/11/2022 20:27

My DS (now 20 and at uni) had terrible anxiety at age 17/18 and had to drop out of 6th form. His triggers seem to be similar to yours. He was practically housebound for a while. Tried CBT, which was draining for all of us, then finally put on sertraline, which he still takes daily. Frankly, it gave him his life back. Doesn't seem to get any side effects although I know the doctor said it can affect sexual function, but we have never asked him about that .. I hope you find a sympathetic doctor 😌

Rachaelrachael · 09/11/2022 20:28

Propranolol is a lifesaver for me! Whenever I feel the physical symptoms coming on I'll take one and within 20 minutes or so I'm back to being calm and confident

YouAreShoutingAtTea · 09/11/2022 20:30

I take venlaflaxine and I'm finally me! I always been on and off anti anxiety pills but got really bad after my son was born, I wanted to breastfeed so I only started taking venlaflaxine again when he was 1 year old; OMG, the difference was massive, I could finally enjoy being a mum! My son is 6 and I'm still taking them, I might take them my whole life, so what, some people take heart medication or insulin or other stuff for physical symptoms so why MH is any different?

pinklemonade84 · 09/11/2022 20:30

I take citalopram and propranolol and they've really helped me. I was already on citalopram after losing my mum in 2017, and after a medical emergency last year, I was finding the bad days were awful and getting more frequent, so the gp increased the citalopram and put me on the propranolol too. They've been really beneficial for me

bottomsup22 · 09/11/2022 20:30

I have heard good things about propranolol and I think because my anxiety seems situational it could probably help me a lot. I wouldn't need to take it daily just when a panic attack is likely. However the last time I spoke to my GP about it she was really against giving me it. She just told me all the horrible side effects and tried to put me off.

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Answerthedoor · 09/11/2022 20:31

I suggest magnesium glycinate supplement Has really helped me.

YouAreShoutingAtTea · 09/11/2022 20:33

Forgot to add I used to have massive panic attacks, they have disappeared, I get panicky sometimes but they stop very quickly as I'm able to identify the triggers now

Emily29 · 09/11/2022 20:33

Sertraline changed my life (for the better) along with CBT x

pinklemonade84 · 09/11/2022 20:33

bottomsup22 · 09/11/2022 20:30

I have heard good things about propranolol and I think because my anxiety seems situational it could probably help me a lot. I wouldn't need to take it daily just when a panic attack is likely. However the last time I spoke to my GP about it she was really against giving me it. She just told me all the horrible side effects and tried to put me off.

I'd ask to see a different gp. I've found some are more sympathetic than others. One tried to brush me off after the medical emergency. But the 2nd one I saw, she saw the state I was in and didn't hesitate recommending the propranolol

TinaTotal · 09/11/2022 20:35

I take propranolol and cyclizine for nausea because my anxiety makes me feel sick. I take both as and when I need them. I don't get any side affects. GPs are so weird.

freesoul12 · 09/11/2022 20:36

As you have mentioned in your post, you tried CBT and it did not help. What is triggering your core belief? CBT has turned my life around.I am not on any medication at all.

Rachaelrachael · 09/11/2022 20:36

@bottomsup22 I would definitely push for propranolol, it really has been lifechanging for me. I started on 40mg per day when I first started with panic attacks and now I only take 10mg as and when needed.
Just knowing that I have it available helps massively. Any situations that I know will set me off (social anxiety for me) I can just take one in advance and carry on about my business.
I've had no side effects at all.

jacketbasket · 09/11/2022 20:36

I had the worst anxiety, panic attacks, couldn't take my da to places couldn't go places on my own couldn't do crowds
I used to dread him getting birthday party invites because I couldn't physically take him. DH had to step up a lot, I couldn't even take him to his swimming lessons.
Medication changed my life! It took a while to find the right mix, citalopram and propanalol
I take DD to baby groups, I drive down lanes, brithday patty's mixing with other parents I'm there!
My anxiety disorder owned me for so long, do I still get anxious yes, do I still have days where I can't do things yes
But it's 1000% better than before
I honestly have a different live now
Just wanted to give a positive perspective as I thought I would always be imprisoned by anxiety but that doesn't have to be the case
I also did cbt therapy 3 times but 2 of those times it made me more anxious with the 'homework' the third time the lady just listened to me and worked around me, and she was amazing she also changed my life.

BuildersTeaMaker · 09/11/2022 20:37

Just a thought…have you thought if you’re early perimenopause? My anxiety and panic attacks didn’t start till peri . I’m post menopausal now and it can be debilitating.

at time I was advised not to go onto HRT as it was just after the scary research reports that have now been debunked. HRT Is now shown to really be effective for these sorts of symptoms and things like depression etc that often follows it.

id start by asking GP for full bloods inc hormones, thyroid etc to rule out any physiological issues. Then take it from there.

bottomsup22 · 09/11/2022 20:37

Mine kept telling me I'd get heart palpitations and kind of made me feel like I'd be at risk of other medical conditions if I took it. I don't know what my experience with it would be like and she's made me a bit scared to try it but I think I'd prefer something that I could take as and when needed over a daily medication that affects me in other ways - grogginess etc.

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bottomsup22 · 09/11/2022 20:39

Can I just ask how propranolol works for those who have had success with it? Do you literally just take one before an anxiety inducing situation and it stops the physical symptoms?

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DelightedDaisy · 09/11/2022 20:39

Those who take propranolol, how does it help? I take it it doesn’t stop the anxious thoughts, just the physical symptoms? How does that help with the anxiety, ie are you still scared?

Iwontbecomeher · 09/11/2022 20:41

As per pp propranolol. I’m over the worst of my anxiety but if I feel the unease flaring I’ll take a couple and feel calmer quite quicker. I don’t know if it’s almost having a placebo effect, the fact that I have it available ‘just in case’ but it works for me.

Rachaelrachael · 09/11/2022 20:41

Yep, literally as simple as that, all the physical symptoms disappear. I might still feel a bit nervous, but it's just normal nerves like everyone feels.

RedSquirrelRoar · 09/11/2022 20:41

I think serious side effects are pretty rare with a low dose of propranolol @bottomsup22. I’ve been taking it for a month or so now and haven’t noticed anything.

it won’t change how you think per se but it should stop the physical symptoms pretty much completely, which might help break that cycle of worry and avoidance.

jacketbasket · 09/11/2022 20:42

I take propanalol daily for migraines but I've found my anxiety doing really well at moment mixed with the citalopram
It could be a coincidence and I don't have migraine fog and constant head pain anymore so that I'm sure has also helped

pinklemonade84 · 09/11/2022 20:43

I take 10mg of propranolol twice a day, one in the morning and one at night. I've had no side effects at all. I was having awful panic attacks. My heart would be pounding. I'd have cold sweats, which would make me panic even more. I can take another 10mg tablet if I need to during the day

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