To just start again next week ?

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I have a huge huge to do list.

Majority of it is about bills and debts. I need to pay things, set up debt repayments , re set up direct debits that kept failing, chase where some of my debts even are now etc etc the big ones I haven’t heard about in months and they will need paying I was going to set up token payments of £1 per month for each.

Im so exhausted though. I have so much to do on top of all the above with the house and dc and appointments and im totally overwhelmed. I feel physically drained.

AIBU to just ignore my phone , not sort anything out till Monday and just start again then and just have a weekend to relax as I feel ill from stress? I know I should carry on getting things ticked off the list but it feels like it’s all I do and I want time off from it before I combust

Could you make an appointment with Citizens Advice? They will help make everything clear and straightforward. They may even deal with some of the companies for you.

This is good advice - if you feel you just can't tackle it yourself they can help you plan what to do.

to just turn my phone off, not go online, not have to speak to people, not have to go out. To just look after myself and eat properly and reduce my stress levels

Well you have made your mind up, so I guess just do it.

If your medication isn’t helping it might be worth a chat with your doctor to rethink doseage/medication

This 🤷‍♀️ you've decided what you're doing so I'm not sure what anyone can say.
I personally would find it worse to know I had a total shitstorm to contend with and wouldn't be able to relax.

I don’t take any medication

Might be worth a chat with your doctor about your options re ADHD medication. It might really help your situation

its hard to explain I think with autistic shutdown / burnout it’s not like I don’t know I still have to do those things next week I do but I feel I need to turn my phone off when I go to bed and not turn it back on till Monday so I can eat and sleep and read and decompress and reset my mind if that makes sense

Currently I’m still breastfeeding my youngest so don’t want to take anything at all but when I’ve stopped I will look into it

I can’t see how this thread will do you any good. You’ve already made up your mind and I don’t think you’ll feel understood or validated.

Normally your psychiatrist and doc would talk through options for medication after diagnosis.

I just wanted to talk I think because I was feeling overwhelmed

I’ve never taken anything since about the age of 16 because of various circumstances and although I’m revisiting the idea I wouldn’t take anything till I’ve stopped breastfeeding

I just felt I think that a few days with my phone off and just lots of self care and things like reading to distract myself and meditation or going for a run etc because I need to reset my mind

You could apply online for your credit files and then leave it for the weekend. That way you would have time to switch off but also have all the information you need to pick things up again on Monday. Good luck

There's no point in pressuring yourself if you've already been pushed to the limit. If you're able to, perhaps write up a to-do list in the morning, have a plan of action for Monday so you can't procrastinate. Take the down time but be sure you get back on track on Monday. Sounds like you've been busy with it all for a while and it's bound to get tedious and overwhelming. So long as nothing can bite you on the bum for letting things wait, do what you need to do 💐

Start by doing one, then see how you go. Once one is done you'll feel better

Could you manage one small thing today? Tomorrow look at the list again and tick off what you have completed and try one more?

Yes, at least do this!

This will sounds mean and I genuinely don’t intend it to be as I understand that you’re struggling due to disability but…

It sounds like you have significant debt. Often, avoidance can contribute to debt increasing (punitive late fees, increased interest rates, other penalties).

If that’s the case here, and you’re avoiding dealing with it, it’s only going to get worse.

Speak to your GP. Breastfeeding may not be a blocker to medicating.

Do you have a partner/friend/family member who can help? You soun d so down and defeated, if someone could take some of the day to.day load.off you might feel.more able.to tackle the debt stuff