To feel low and worn out

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I am a single mum and im so unhappy. Since 2002 i have lost my mum and dad and my nan. I have had lots of problems with my dd who is 15 but has gone to live with her boyfriends family since she had her dd. I live my ds who is only 3. I dont have many friends and my life is still fall of my dd problems i dont agree with alot that is going on but if i say to much i risk driving her away even more. Sorry to go on just had to get it out.

you poor thing, sounds like you are having a tough time of it. Don't think I have any advice except is there any m&t groups nearby you could take your ds too, hopefully you could make a few friends through them? DO you have any other family that you can talk to?

i have an an aunty in london and i do talk to her but i live miles away. i take ds to a playgroup once a week but i work and i find it hard to find time to go out with the few triends i have got.

Be kind to yourself, eat well, sleep plenty and excercise. Build up your strength, you've had a lot of stress in the past few years. Can anyone babysit for you every week so you could get out to a nightclass?

no thats another problem getting a sitter i would love to exercise but am not motivated to do it at home. Sorry i feel really hopeless at the moment

I think it's the time of year! Once the days get brighter it will seem much easier to get out there walking with your son.
I'm the same, it is so hard to find the energy to excercise but I know once I get going it will give me more energy.

Could you join a single parents' group - gingerbread or similar?

yes i cant wait for the better weather i need to get my life back and start living again instead of just surviving. i could join a group but they arent really my thing but i do need to make some friends it just seems everyone is married or to busy with there own lives.

The worst thing is ive got no patience and im ratty and irritable with my son and he has had to put up with so much none of this is his fault.

I think we all can feel a bit guilty if we are not in great form with our children. You could even try and make an effort to just act more jolly with him. Sometimes if we don't feel good just pretending to be happy sort of drags you into better form. That if you decide to be a happier person that sometimes works. (That is what I try to do anyway,) but if you think you may be depressed it might be worth going to the doctor.
With friends you could start small and gradually make more contact with the friends you have. New friends will come once you are feeling better.
I have been neglecting my friends because I am so taken up by small children so I'm hoping that this year I'll manage to make more space for friendships too. It is one of my new years resolutions.

Thanks Rosylily i am trying to do that i have to try and be a bit more positive