Taking in parcels

[forwhatitsworth22]

I work in education so I'm off over Xmas holidays. My neighbour knows I'm off and said him and girlfriend are planning on ordering Xmas gifts over my time off as they know I'm off and I can take them in. At first I thought they where joking but he went on to say if I gave him or her my number they can let me know a time frame for delivery. I've told them no I'm not willing to do that, I have my own plans and am planning on days out etc. he then said if I let him know days I'm in he can order around that!!! Again I said no.

Ha! Put a sign up saying “Deliveries for [your own address] only” when the time comes.

Quite right. They'll have to take their chances like everyone else. It's nice to be neighbourly but these two seem to be CFs. Go about your normal plans & definitely don't take in any large items!

I think you are right to tell them no, it’s a bit cheeky to be honest. There’s nothing worse than having to stay in waiting for your own deliveries let alone for someone else. I take the odd delivery in for my neighbours, but stopped when I saw that they had changed delivery address to my house. It’s also too much of a responsibility, delivery drivers just leave parcels on doorstep now. I saw 2 men, one walking and one on a bike looking at doorsteps the other day, my husband told them to clear off. They were clearly looking to steal packages from doorsteps.

What a CF

Drop round your very specific dates and hours with various charges for waiting eg £30 for an hour increasing it for longer than an hour plus accepting more than one parcel no matter the hour comes with additional charge as does size because it takes up more space. Also collection times otherwise it costs more if they delay collecting from you. Then see what happens!

Also payment in advance and no refund for parcel no5 arriving in time slots given!

Thank you, I thought it was cheeky, I don't mind when I'm in to take items but not to be expected.

Cheeky. I would do if i am home but on this organised scale your neighbour is out of order.

Your neighbour genuinely thinks you should give him your schedule so he can plan his deliveries around that? You wouldn't be able to nip out for a coffee, or have an emergency dental appointment? Some people really do astound me.

If you're in, and you're happy to take any parcels in, then great! But no one can honestly expect what he's expecting.

We took in a parcel for a neighbour yesterday and it looked very interesting. Im a nosey so and so, so although I would never have asked her what was in it when she came round for it, she very helpfully told us! Actually it was terribly boring

That's ridiculous, expecting you to commit to being in at a certain time. Have they forgotten the concept of a spontaneous outing?! So cheeky, absolutely tell them no - you're happy to take in a parcel if you're home but you're not a parcel sitting service!

Sounds like you nipped it in the bud. Either tell him that your plans may be spontaneous so you can't give him a schedule, or you plan to be out mon-fri 8am-8pm or you say sorry I'm not waiting in all day to take delivery of your parcels.

I've got a laminated sign on the front door saying parcels for this address only. The CF'er over the road works from home in medical equipment supplies and we once had an entire garage full of boxes from a delivery that they then expected us to take to their garage.... never again. Didn't even get a thank you.

So glad you said no.

Out of interest, do you have a male partner who will also be home and if so, funny he didn't ask him.

Twice I’ve had this.
Once was a family member who would ask if it was ok to get a parcel delivered to ours as they would be a work. I didn’t mind now and again but it got to the stage where they stopped asking and it was every other day. They would a text constantly to ask “has anything arrived for me yet”

if I missed a delivery, I would then be “expected” to collect said parcel from delivery office as they would be at work which was bad enough (not that I did though)
The line was finally crossed when I got a rude awakening at 7.30 on a Sunday morning by a delivery driver battering the door. Got downstairs he practically chucked the parcel at me without a word. Lost my shit at this point and asked why it was acceptable that I was woken so bloody early on a Sunday whilst they are lying in bed till mid day for a parcel that wasn’t mine! That arrangement stopped there and then.

The other was a neighbour who seemed to think I could just hang around all day waiting for her parcels.At first She would ask and if I agreed would put a note on the door saying to bring over to mine. Then she stopped asking every time but I would see the note taped to the door anyway. She then actually started putting my address on some of them and one actually had my name as well!

She was a bit dodgy but I stopped taking them in when she came looking for a parcel that was said to be delivered (that I didn’t know was coming) but hadn’t arrived. It was almost like she didn’t believe that I hadn’t got it. So I started telling her I wouldn’t be home if she asked and anytime delivery drivers knocked i refused to take it.

I only take in parcels for next door now but even then they don’t always come round for them and kind of expect me to take them over. So I refuse anything that’s too big.

@forwhatitsworth22 - tell your neighbour to have his parcels delivered to his place of work (and his girlfriend too!).

Alternatively parcels from Amazon can be delivered to a nominated shop to be collected at your neighbour’s leisure.

At my local Morrisons supermarket there are lock boxes outside the main entrance (for DPS/Hermes afaik) to collect and return parcels and packages 24/7and I’m sure this facility is available at most UK stores.

Who does he think you are?
I'd say if I'm in it's no problem but I'm not going to schedule my life around your parcels.

I do, but he works round the year, he was home at the time when neighbour asked