To not do this trip out

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Plan was to go to play in London.
Friend is upstream of me on the train and doesn't drive.
Previously we have arranged to meet on the train.
She doesn't want to do this now due to train strikes and disruption. However, she has not come up with an alternative apart from me collecting her.

This would be an additional 45 mins drive to collect her, then further to drive to get into London (somewhere on the tube line), and the same on the way back.

Door to door it's about 2hrs for me to get into central London (drive to station, mainline, then tube).
What she is expecting of me would be about 4 hours.

I am afraid she is one of those non-drivers who don't seem to take into account what they're asking.

I'm not worried about the strikes. If more are scheduled then I'll work around them.

Obviously if she needed my help to get to an important appointment or something then I'd be more willing, but this was meant to be a nice, low key afternoon out.

I'm tempted to say "let's leave it until the strikes are over"

Why do you email? Why not just ring her or next her and sort it out?

She's being unreasonable though.

Because phone calls take For Ever - she doesn't stop to draw breath!
It's sorted out now.

The can’t drive / won’t drive brigade are frequently infuriating and won’t grasp being the driver is tiring / stressful / expensive etc.

I do have a friend though who doesn’t drive and neither does her partner. Difference is they are super independent and don’t expect other people to drive them around. They get everywhere under their own steam or by public transport

So, I'm going to be a bit more clear now. I didn't want to influence people's opinions so changed some things in my OP.

The person is a family member and is over 80.
She's not going to change how she is and if I challenge or confront her I risk ruining the relationship, which impacts others. I don't want to do that, so I have accepted that I need to accommodate her.
I think it's common to do this in families. She has low self esteem and needs constant validation. I have learnt to not respond to a lot of this because it goes on and on and on. So I nod and listen and then move on.
She loves me and my sons and we do have a good time when we get together.

I am going to go over to see her one evening next week, and we'll go out to dinner locally.

And we've booked to go to a concert in Feb, which is also pretty local, but importantly, she will come with her DH who DOES drive.

I try and remember what my adult son told me. "She just wants to be loved".
That's it really, it just manifests itself in a way that annoys me and has me responding in ways different to how I carry out most of my relationships (family, friends, colleagues).

What I love is that she always buys me books for Xmas and she has always been spot on, introducing me to new authors and knowing exactly what I will like. I find it very touching that she knows me so well in this respect.

She is very intelligent, still working free lance, has many interests and some amazing stories.