I don't think he wants me to learn to drive..

[Peoe]

I'm almost 29 and have never learned to drive.

Now I have DC I've decided to prioritise getting on the road and so I've sent off for my provisional licence and I've been getting quotes from different driving schools for lessons.

I excitedly shared this with my DP (father of our DC who also doesn't drive - lived in London all of his life and never felt the need to bother as teansport here is great)

I'm from a small town on the other side of the country and haven't seen most of my friends for years. I said I couldn't wait to be able to drive down there and see them eventually.

Instead of seeming pleased for me his response was, whilst talking to our LO.. "mummy's going to be going out partying every weekend"

I don't go out partying, haven't for years.

I don't really have a social life here.

He's not

AIBU to think that was a shitty thing for him to say and actually he should be encouraging me?

Apart from anything else...

Much less partying happens once you're the driver, due to needing to stay completely sober!

My cousin never learned to drive because her husband wasn't keen on her learning. She is now in her sixties and regrets not doing it, her mum (my auntie) says she's been a bloody fool. The husband has retired so she's stuck in the house with him.

It's not too late surely?

My controlling exdh put every possible barrier in the way of me learning to drive while simultaneously bitching about feeling like a taxi driver. I think the only reason he eventually 'let' me was because he could see he had almost pushed me too far and I may actually start seeing the light. Definitely go ahead and learn and start considering your future with him.

He doesn't get a say!! You want to drive? Learn to drive!

Sounds like another controlling bastard. A man who loved you would encourage you to drive knowing it will improve your self confidence. It's also worrying you haven't seen your friends for years as you moved from your home town, can't you get a train. I moved to another country, I have 2 DC and I still travel to the UK to see friends 4 times a year. If I were you I'd invent a reason to go out once a week just to see how he reacts, you don't go out socialising much so you need to see if he would stop you or make Passive aggressive comments.