My abusive ex was given supervised contact by court and the contact is going well so looks like it will be moving to unsupervised very soon..
I have a non harassment order in place for the next year so he can’t contact me and someone else will have to facilitate handovers
The problem is I still fear for my sons safety in his dads care. My child can’t talk so can’t come back to me and tell me if anything has happened. The supervised contact is going well but it’s only 1 hour sessions once a week and ex can be very charming when he wants to be and act like dad of the year in front of other people but I’ve seen a very different side to him.
He is very volatile and abused me with our baby in my arms and threatened to take our child away and not bring him back numerous times
I’m terrified he will carry this out when he gets unsupervised contact and it will be me who needs to go to court for access which all takes time and god knows what malicious allegations he would make about me like he already has done
I went to the police and he was charged and convicted of his abuse to me and he’s already been convicted in past for abusing an ex of his so I don’t believe he will ever change it’s a pattern of behaviour for him
On top of all of the abuse he also uses cocaine regularly and drinks nearly every night but the court did not order drug testing as they said people use cocaine recreationally and the court accepts that but I had evidence of him stealing money constantly from me and his parents for drugs, drug gangs showing up at his family’s home and threatening them over drug debts and damaging their property, and his family actually needed to get CCTV it was so bad . It’s went on for at least 10 years this behaviour. but that was not enough for the court
My life has improved in every way since leaving him but I feel I can’t be happy and fully move on because I’m scared of what he might do. He always used to threaten me with court and lawyers so I’m sure we will be back in court again in the future and the thought fills me with dread because it’s such a stressful experience
I just want to be happy but how in these circumstances