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Depression in pregnancy?

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gonewithtthewind · 08/11/2022 11:46

26 weeks today, currently on bed rest as I have pre eclampsia, told I had gestational diabetes today. I have PGP and sciatic nerve pain so can hardly walk. I'm so miserable.

I don't know if depression in pregnancy is a thing? I had it before but it was under control. I know you can get postnatal depression but nobody talks about it during pregnancy?

I'm so alone, I can't do anything as I'm on bed rest and my partner goes to work so I'm at home on my own all day. I can't use the car as my partner used it for work, I try and go for a walk everyday and I do well at this but it's always on my own. Nobody comes to visit me, they all know I'm at home on my own. I don't ever get a text or a call asking how I am? Even though I'd do that for them and did do so but I've stopped now that I see nobody else makes the effort.
I talk to my sisters most days in the group chat but they both work full time so don't really have the time to come and see me which I understand. But there are people that don't work (parents, in laws ect) or they're off work currently yet I don't see anyone. I'm finding things really difficult and feel like I have this massive weight on my shoulders I can't shift. I want support, even if that's just a text message but I don't really get that. It makes me so scared for when the baby is here that I'll have postnatal depression. I'm in a really dark place at the moment, I have no motivation for anything, I cry all the time and I just feel so so sad all the time. I've tried to get in contact with my mental health consultant but I don't have a contact number for them so have asked my community midwife if they could get them to call me but they never called.
I've realised how little support I have since being pregnant and can see peoples true colours more. I don't really have any friends, I have a few people I talk to online but that's as far as it goes and it's not often. I don't want to bombard people with my problems.

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Rinoachicken · 08/11/2022 11:59

It is very much a thing. Please speak to your midwife - there will be a peri-natal team they can link you up with to provide more support during the rest of your pregnancy and afterwards as well.

Hmuu · 08/11/2022 12:07

Definitely a thing. I'm so sorry you're dealing with this.

I would google your local perinatal mental health team and ring them directly, also ring your local IAPT and self-refer. if you're pregnant or up to one year postnatal you will be put straight to the top of the waiting list and eligible for therapy. We deliver therapy for depression to pregnant people all the time, it's either six sessions if it's relatively mild and you're able to carry out guided self help or up to twenty sessions of CBT, I'd get onto it asap as you only have a few months of pregnancy left and you'll want to have completed treatment before the birth. You can also see your GP about medication, some are safe during pregnancy.

You could also try to make other pregnant or mum friends, the Peanut app is good I've heard. When I was pregnant I posted on our local estate facebook group enquiring if anyone else was pregnant and we made a group chat with a bunch of us, three years later we all speak daily and meet up often and our kiddos are all friends, it's wonderful.

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