Would you find this weird and what would you to say to him?

[Doggydaycaree]

I have been chatting to a guy on a dating app for around two weeks. We haven’t met yet but arranged for a first date on the weekend.

he asked me if I had anything else planned for this month and I told him it’s my birthday at the end of the month so would be going on a night out. He has basically invited himself saying he will come along? Would you find this weird?

How do you know what he’s thinking, are you him?

I take things slow but I don't see a problem here. Sounds like he's just being nice, "oh sounds fun, I should come", it's an offhand comment meaning he's looking forward to spending time with you. It doesn't mean if the date goes badly he's now committed to forcing his way in to your birthday.

Thanks for all replies. I didn’t agree to it as I thought yes maybe it was said as a joke but he is being persistent asking for what time and where to come

I'd keep the details to myself until you've at least met him on a date first...

Abort abort abort

Seriously I'd block at this point. Creepy

What have you said to him already? If you’ve already brushed him off and he’s persisting, I’d block him and move on as he’s not respecting your boundaries. If you’ve been a bit vague, the next time he mentions it just say “sorry I think you’ve misunderstood, I’ve arranged to go out with my friends so will have to arrange to meet up with you another time”.

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Oh come ON OP!

You've just happened to stumble across a pushy nutcase on the net.
No biggie. No need to analyse it ANY further beyond "yeah, that's weird, I don't like it" ... & BLOCK.

Urgh no. Delete, block, ghost. He has no boundaries - that’s not a man to trifle with. I’d give him the benefit of the doubt to start with, as I said something that sounded a bit like I’d invited my one-time-shag for Xmas dinner! I wasn’t and was mortified when I realised how it sounded. But this guy has made it clear that he really thinks he can come along and I your birthday night out before he’s even met you. Red flag alert.

If a woman behaved like that, she’d be called a bunny boiler…

Nah if he's serious then he's an odd one if he thinks it's OK to invite himself to a birthday celebration for someone he hasn't met, as what, your date for the night? Even if it was a casual 'I'll be in town too, you'll have to let me know where you're headed and we'll come and say hi' then he should have put the idea out then left it until after the date. I get the impression he doesn't understand boundaries or at the least is very socially inept.

If he’s persisting with this when you’ve made it clear he isn’t coming then that’s different entirely to him just being a bit over keen.

Up to you if you decide to go on your date this weekend. If you do make sure it’s a clear no. You’ll get a very good idea what sort of person someone is by how they initially react to a no. If he doesn’t like it, I’d definitely up and leave.

Definitely weird. Too much too soon.

And if he keeps pushing after a no then that’s a red flag.