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Work are unreasonable not me!

56 replies

housinghero · 08/11/2022 09:40

I work in a hybrid situation - wfh and office. I have a disability which means I need a specialist chair. I have one at home which I bought and one at work which I had to fight for work to provide (long story). I handed in my notice for a new job last thurs with 4 weeks notice. Yesterday my specialist chair at work was taken back to the suppliers. This means I cannot go into the office- at all!!!
The ink on the letter was barely dry!
I don't think I am unreasonable to expect to be able to go into the office until my last working day or am I??????

OP posts:
BananaFluff · 08/11/2022 11:35

KatherineJaneway · 08/11/2022 11:08

I am very conscientious but if they don't invest in me then I wont invest in them.

I think it is awful they got rid of your chair but they are still paying you. If not working impacts other team members, I'd think twice about doing very little.

They are putting barriers in the way to that. OP I'd do bare minimum now.

Cherrytree77 · 08/11/2022 11:56

What a bunch of arseholes. They have let you know exactly how they feel about treating you as an employee and my workload over my notice period would then reflect that.

housinghero · 08/11/2022 11:57

I have it in writing now - its because my chair was on a trial and then when I gave in my notice my boss asked the chair people if the purchase had gone through as I wouldn't need it after 2nd dec. The chair people came the next day and took it away.
Boss has said it is 'fine with him ' to work from home.
Thanks for that Boss- I don't have any choice!

And I agree - they have no idea what its like to need adjustments - I would much rather that I didnt need them - I'm not being difficult but just want to do my job without any pain

OP posts:
EilonwyWithRedGoldHair · 09/11/2022 12:58

Theopossumwasmeantforme · 08/11/2022 10:36

I work in the civil service and my department switched from using access to work to some sort of in house version. I'm sure that will go well...

It can be a bloody nightmare needing reasonable adjustments. I think people don't realise we need them to be able to work and have no idea what it feels like when they go wrong. It's like a constant battle sometimes. I'm tired of it. 😐

DH's reasonable adjustments was to be able to take the breaks that were in his contract, with the afternoon break at a time suitable for him to take his medication (it was within the normal break times for the company), and to not work late nights followed by an early morning (they often ignored the 11 hr break between shifts). They said they couldn't guarantee either of those things. Couldn't guarantee to stick to their employment contract and the law.

Theopossumwasmeantforme · 09/11/2022 13:54

@EilonwyWithRedGoldHair that's ridiculous!

EilonwyWithRedGoldHair · 09/11/2022 14:04

Theopossumwasmeantforme · 09/11/2022 13:54

@EilonwyWithRedGoldHair that's ridiculous!

Tell me about it! It was retail though.

AnchorWHAT · 09/11/2022 14:09

housinghero · 08/11/2022 11:57

I have it in writing now - its because my chair was on a trial and then when I gave in my notice my boss asked the chair people if the purchase had gone through as I wouldn't need it after 2nd dec. The chair people came the next day and took it away.
Boss has said it is 'fine with him ' to work from home.
Thanks for that Boss- I don't have any choice!

And I agree - they have no idea what its like to need adjustments - I would much rather that I didnt need them - I'm not being difficult but just want to do my job without any pain

Just wondering if you are being made redundant why you are resigning? Surely you lose any redundancy payment by doing this? Most people stay for this then go to next job, we had a case where the person coming into new job asked if we could defer the start date until his redundancy was complete so he didn't lose payment.

Fattoushi · 09/11/2022 14:12

housinghero · 08/11/2022 11:57

I have it in writing now - its because my chair was on a trial and then when I gave in my notice my boss asked the chair people if the purchase had gone through as I wouldn't need it after 2nd dec. The chair people came the next day and took it away.
Boss has said it is 'fine with him ' to work from home.
Thanks for that Boss- I don't have any choice!

And I agree - they have no idea what its like to need adjustments - I would much rather that I didnt need them - I'm not being difficult but just want to do my job without any pain

Isn't that fair enough though, really? The chair was on a trial, it was either send it back now or spend lots of money on it, for somene leaving in 4 weeks, who can just as easily work from home?

It would hardly be a good use of public money to have kept it for you, would it?

Theydoyaknow · 09/11/2022 14:18

housinghero · 08/11/2022 11:57

I have it in writing now - its because my chair was on a trial and then when I gave in my notice my boss asked the chair people if the purchase had gone through as I wouldn't need it after 2nd dec. The chair people came the next day and took it away.
Boss has said it is 'fine with him ' to work from home.
Thanks for that Boss- I don't have any choice!

And I agree - they have no idea what its like to need adjustments - I would much rather that I didnt need them - I'm not being difficult but just want to do my job without any pain

Why on EARTH would they go ahead with purchasing a specialist chair that I imagine was extremely expensive for someone who will be gone by Dec 2nd and who can also work from home? It makes no sense.

saltinesandcoffeecups · 09/11/2022 14:22

housinghero · 08/11/2022 11:57

I have it in writing now - its because my chair was on a trial and then when I gave in my notice my boss asked the chair people if the purchase had gone through as I wouldn't need it after 2nd dec. The chair people came the next day and took it away.
Boss has said it is 'fine with him ' to work from home.
Thanks for that Boss- I don't have any choice!

And I agree - they have no idea what its like to need adjustments - I would much rather that I didnt need them - I'm not being difficult but just want to do my job without any pain

Oh give it up OP, They had an opportunity to return the chair. You already WFH. You are leaving. Did you expect them to set up the empty chair as a shrine to you?

Grow up.

Ljavery · 09/11/2022 14:25

Sorry but given that the chair is in a period where it can be returned and they know it won't be needed in future then I think you are being unreasonable. You can work from home and are leaving. I understand why you feel upset, but you're not being reasonable.

Booklover3 · 09/11/2022 14:27

AnchorWHAT · 09/11/2022 14:09

Just wondering if you are being made redundant why you are resigning? Surely you lose any redundancy payment by doing this? Most people stay for this then go to next job, we had a case where the person coming into new job asked if we could defer the start date until his redundancy was complete so he didn't lose payment.

I was wondering this too

Theopossumwasmeantforme · 09/11/2022 14:31

The OP's em

Theopossumwasmeantforme · 09/11/2022 14:32

Oops

The OP's employer is required by law to make reasonable adjustments. OP paid for her own chair at home (I'd guess to avoid the inevitable fight to get the employer to pay for one). They should not have removed required adjustments while she was still employed.

froggedup · 09/11/2022 15:29

OP might not be entitled to redundancy if they had been there less than 2 years etc. for those intent on missing the point of this post. I would feel incredibly pissed off if I'd had to fight tooth and nail to get reasonable adjustments put in place simply to do my job with the same ease as able-bodied people and then had them removed before I'd even left. Regardless of whether or not it was a money-saving move it comes across as callous and hostile.

froggedup · 09/11/2022 15:32

froggedup · 09/11/2022 15:29

OP might not be entitled to redundancy if they had been there less than 2 years etc. for those intent on missing the point of this post. I would feel incredibly pissed off if I'd had to fight tooth and nail to get reasonable adjustments put in place simply to do my job with the same ease as able-bodied people and then had them removed before I'd even left. Regardless of whether or not it was a money-saving move it comes across as callous and hostile.

Sorry, adding to my own post as I should have said non-disabled not able-bodied.

Cantstandbullshit · 09/11/2022 16:26

housinghero · 08/11/2022 09:40

I work in a hybrid situation - wfh and office. I have a disability which means I need a specialist chair. I have one at home which I bought and one at work which I had to fight for work to provide (long story). I handed in my notice for a new job last thurs with 4 weeks notice. Yesterday my specialist chair at work was taken back to the suppliers. This means I cannot go into the office- at all!!!
The ink on the letter was barely dry!
I don't think I am unreasonable to expect to be able to go into the office until my last working day or am I??????

That’s a petty and mean move, they should have waiting till after your last day to return it.

I would just do the bare minimum for the rest of your notice period and work from home.

Cantstandbullshit · 09/11/2022 16:28

housinghero · 08/11/2022 09:56

I literally had a message from my line manager saying - your chair has gone back - you might want to consider if you are going to come into the office.
My reply was very short and sweet - I'm not coming in.
I can carry on at home but it just feels like a two fingers up to me as I literally had to battle to get the chair .
Not nice and given I have only got another job because they are making me redundant!
I am having to bite my tongue as t has both made me angry and upset

We it sounds like things are acrimonious and they are not happy. Doesn’t justify their actions though. I would have responded the same as you did and stay home.

housinghero · 10/11/2022 10:16

saltinesandcoffeecups · 09/11/2022 14:22

Oh give it up OP, They had an opportunity to return the chair. You already WFH. You are leaving. Did you expect them to set up the empty chair as a shrine to you?

Grow up.

I take it you dot have a disability OP ? You might feel differently if you did.
Prejudice as usual ....

OP posts:
housinghero · 10/11/2022 10:21

Booklover3 · 09/11/2022 14:27

I was wondering this too

Not sure what this has to do with a chair..... Two separate issues -

OP posts:
Fraaahnces · 10/11/2022 10:22

Wow… Life with a disability ensures socializing and feeling like you are living a “normal” life a contributing to society isn’t hard enough? Throw in judgments, prejudice and assumptions, now enforced isolation? Can you be constructively dismissed AFTER you resign?

ChicCroissant · 12/11/2022 19:26

But you can do your job without pain from home because you have a suitable chair there. You've got a new job, you're leaving but you want to make your last couple of weeks a battle when it doesn't need to be - it's pointless. Save your energy for the next job OP.

Fattoushi · 12/11/2022 19:47

housinghero · 10/11/2022 10:16

I take it you dot have a disability OP ? You might feel differently if you did.
Prejudice as usual ....

I do, and I still think you are entirely in the wrong.

The notion that public money should have been spent to buy an expensive chair for you when you are leaving in about 3 weeks, and you have a perfectly good alternative set up, is absurd. And in the current climate, obscene.

Hankunamatata · 12/11/2022 19:52

I that context - they were in process of buying the chair but sale hadn't gone through so they returned it instead. It does make sense rather than purchase a chair they are not going to be of use.

rwalker · 12/11/2022 19:53

Cantstandbullshit · 09/11/2022 16:26

That’s a petty and mean move, they should have waiting till after your last day to return it.

I would just do the bare minimum for the rest of your notice period and work from home.

Read the update it was reasonable why they did it
it wasn’t done out of spite