A friend of mine met a lady online he fell completely in love with. She lives overseas but they had met in person.
She claimed to be moving to Manchester to be with him last month but has changed her flight plans about 10 times with various excuses regarding jobs and visas and whatnot.
Alarm bells were already ringing for me as none of what she was saying was adding up, but he was hearing none of it. She was also clearly gaslighting him over tiny matters that were completely illogical.
He recently found evidence that she is absolutely not who she says she is and has a whole family with kids back in her home country. There is irrefutable evidence of this.
Nonetheless he adores her and keeps asking me for reassurance that she really could be who she says she is, or that there's a rational reason for it all.
There isn't. She's just insane, from what I can tell.
I don't think it's a financial scam as she hasn't asked him for money, rather just a board, attention seeking woman.
I have run out of supportive words now. I can't keep playing along with him trying to rationalise it and truly believing everything she says. He keeps saying 'yes but it'll all be better when she moves here'.
She clearly isn't moving here...
What do I say to him. I don't want to be too harsh (although I've tried several times and he doesn't take any notice). He's clearly very in love and very distressed and I do sympathise, but this is madness.
I've run out of energy to support it all.