My DD is 13, year 8. Her close friend - lovely girl - is noticeably slimmer than when they were at primary together, but not underweight.
I was putting Dd's lunch together last week and she mentioned that her packed lunch friends are jealous of her lunchbox, as it's Bento style. This somehow led on to her mentioning how her friend had said she has to make her own lunch. Nothing wrong with this, obviously, it's great to encourage this kind of independence and I would love DD to do this, but we haven't started it yet for valid reasons outside the purpose of this post (attempting to avoid derail!). She then said with some concern that said friend -lets call her Poppy- hardly has any lunch in her box. Sometimes a fruit winder and a bag of crisps, and sometimes just crisps. DD said she offered her some of her bread but Poppy refused, claiming she doesn't like it.
I guess I am concerned that Poppy isn't getting enough to eat, whether that is because she is too disorganised and tardy in the mornings to assemble a full lunchbox so she is just grabbing some of the snack items, or whether she is restricting her eating deliberately. Another friend came round to hang out and I steered the chat round to packed lunches and said friend also commented that Poppy hardly has anything in hers.
I offered to put an extra sandwich in DD's that she can discreetly share with Poppy, but DD seems to think she wouldn't take it. Given her obvious weight loss (or growing through her weight, maybe) I have said to DD to keep an eye on Poppy and let me know if, over the next week or so, she never has a proper lunch with her. My thought was that I would then make a call to her head of year for them to handle quietly. Should I butt out? I am more worried that she is restricting her calories than that she is too disorganised to pack a proper lunch, because she refuses items when others offer to share.