to be hurt by workplace over this

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just went on mat leave and have never felt so unappreciated in a job in my life. i’ve been there a year (since opening), the place has high staff turnover so i am the only member of staff still there other than the manager who has been there since the beginning. i did all sorts of extra bits and pieces outside of my job role for them and thought i was part of the team.

however what i’m upset about is i didn’t even get a good luck card. the last place i worked at a girl who went on mat leave had a whole baby shower thrown for her on the last day and i didn’t even get a good luck card. a girl at this workplace who ‘left’ but is still on payroll and picks up the odd shift got a gift etc. is it so much to ask them all to sign a 50p card saying good luck. i feel quite hurt by it.

also invited me to christmas do, i said there was only ONE day in the whole of nov/dec i couldn’t make and they’ve made that the day of the work do. feels like a kick in the teeth.

its only smp so don’t have to go back and i really feel like saying fuck you all and never returning. don’t know if i’m being petty but fuck me all i’m asking for is for one of them to nip to card factory, spend 50p on a card and sign it, is that really a huge ask?

If they’re all new staff they prob didn’t think of it/presumed someone else would do it

I'm also just on mat leave, my workplace don't do a card etc until baby arrives then its posted out. Would that be the case?

well a few staff are fairly new but there’s 3 who have been there long enough, as in they’ve known me my whole pregnancy and then some

They all prob thought the manager would do it? Since the mgr and you had been there from the beginning and they are all relatively new?

The manager should have organised something, but she’s the only one who is responsible.

Yanbu, that's really hurtful whatever the reason for it. Something similar happened to me and I think it was most likely an oversight but it did hurt and I struggled to get over myself enough to chip in when we were all making fuss of the next person ceiebrating

We don't do cards or gifts until baby arrives. It's been like this in virtually every workplace I've worked at. A baby shower at work is weird.

In my office we do a card/gift after the birth of a child, not before. I don’t know if that’s influenced by the fact we’re a male dominated industry so the team mate is generally the father rather than the mother…but still, before seems a bit weird. Nothing has happened until the baby is born, then congratulations are in order. That’s generally how it seems to be done in any workplace I’ve been in.

Card is for when the baby arrived at every single workplace I have ever been part of or heard about, let alone at a workplace with high turnover where noone will feel particularly attached to the team or know the ettiquite

Personally I think this is an enormous overreaction