Partner flying out?

[raniatx]

DP has decided that he's probably going to fly abroad with a couple of friends to watch a football match.

We have a DS and since he was born he's watched a few games, none of which bothered me because they were in our country so he was never gone for more than a couple of hours and easily accessible.

However, he has decided that his friends and him will be flying to watch a match in february and he didn't even ask my opinion?

AIBU to think he should've consulted me in this decision and asked if i were ok with it? personally, i wouldn't do such a thing without telling him. He'll probably be gone for a day or two and i think it's unreasonable to do that when we've got a couple month old baby.

help me out here i don't know if i'm being unreasonable or if he's just being an a** for thinking he shouldn't even consult with me??

@toomuchlaundry

I would check the calendar. But it's a shared app on our phone so I wouldn't necessarily have to ask if he was busy for me to plan something.

Who ever is last to make plans finds a babysitter.

It's rare we have something booked in 4 months in advance, and even rarer for it to be something we haven't previously discussed.

Wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. We both know what we can/can’t afford financially. As courtesy we always do a quick check with each other when making plans solo just to double check that we don’t have anything on that the other has agreed to and forgotten to mention. But neither of us would ever think to ask permission.

DH works offshore for weeks at a time - you’ll manage your baby fine for a couple of days by yourself!

Personally, I think he should have had a conversation about it first, just out of courtesy. It’s not up to you to dictate if he goes or not.
However, I’d ask if this is a one off, or an example of how he treats you ?