AIBU to expect my family to not comment on my weight

[Tequilachic12]

i feel uncomfortable even writing this but here goes..

my family is obsessed with weight to the point where most of them take slimming tablets or have got weight management surgery and they are always on at me to loose weight and change my appearance .

i am a big girl and I know I should loose weight but it makes me feel so uncomfortable that I am always the topic of conversation at family functions and I’m always being told what I should do 😥they have offered to pay for me to see private doctors etc. I politely decline letting them know that I worry about surgery’s etc and am happy trying on my own.

i have caught them on more than one occasion whispering behind my back and refusing to give me food at party’s as “I don’t need anymore”

I am meeting up with family tomorrow and it has already started with a family member saying that they’re disgusted with someone else due to there weight . This is how it normally starts and then i get bombarded with 10 diet plans or a recommendation of a doctor.

AIBU to think that they shouldn’t bring it up constantly and make me feel guilty to the point where I feel uncomfortable even being around them ?

I’d stop seeing them. You know you’re overweight, they might be concerned but it’s tipped over into bullying. Assuming you’ve told them to stop discussing your body in front of you you can just stop being around them.

Just don't go if they're acting like that. Seeing family should be pleasurable not something you dread.

Just don't go. Don't put yourself around people who make you feel bad. If they ask why tell them the truth

These people all have an issue with their own weight which is why they take tablets or have had surgery to 'help' them with their own body image!! Not the best example to be listening to - are they?
So you are NBU!! They are for being so rude!! Don't go - they are looking for a stooge to pick on - if you are not there they will have to nit pick their own images!! If you are happy with how you feel then who are they to criticise you?

Don't go. What a horrible set of people they sound, picking on you to make themselves feel superior.

Its bullying by the sound of it, sustained attacks on the same person over a length of time.

What do you get out of having a relationship with them?

Agree with don't go. It's not worth the mental stress

I’d be tempted to tell them that their constant comments about your weight are causing you to have worse issues with your weight than if they shut up and left you alone. It might get them to be quiet.

Tell them if they mention you weight or offer any diet ideas you will leave.
And be prepared to do that.
Have a plan for what you will do it you leave - something you would enjoy.

My Mum is like this OP and I’m sure all my food issues derive from her.

YANBU because it doesn't matter what they think about your weight, or what you do/don't want to do about your weight, they need to keep their opinions to themselves.
Making comments like they're doing is spiteful and nasty

I really encourage you to put your foot down. Tell them that you will walk away, if someone makes a comment. And then do it - cut the conversation dead, leave the room, leave the building if necessary.

They may decide that you are 'touchy' but that doesn't matter as long as they shut up.