29 and no children

[Jesde]

I’ve recently turned 29 and all I keep thinking about is the fact I have no children. It’s never really bothered me up until the past year. Maybe it’s the fact I’m getting older or that my closest friend has had a second child or that all six of my friendship group have children. I shouldn’t compare but I do.

one of the biggest problems with having children for me is the fear.
i am a big worrier. I have a niece who I WORRY the most over like she’s mine, since the day she’s been born. I don’t know how much I would enjoy that feeling of worry.

when I was 20ish I had a termination which I’ve thought about ever since and I sometimes question wether I deserve children or not ( I shouldn’t think this way)

I have only been with my partner for a year and a half so It’s not about wanting children right now

i just want to know If this is normal? I know having children is a big and scary thing but should it feel this scary at the idea of it all

Sorry if it makes zero sense, I am no good at this stuff.

I’m the same, being a massive over-worrier has put me off from having children, I know I’d just worry every minute of the day about them and drive myself and DP mad. But you are only 29, I would take the pressure out of it for the time being and see how you’re doing in three years or so. Most people I know started their families in their mid-thirties so there’s a lot of time.

I have one daughter, aged 2.

I’m not a worrier, in fact I’m the total opposite. However, I do spend morning noon and night worrying about her - is she developing well, is the world going to shit, will she be ok as an only child. That and an unremitting sense of guilt because I’ve let her watch 15 minutes of Peppa Pig just so I can have a brew and a biscuit.