Teenage Girls

[SpanishGirl1987]

So my Dd best friend is an absolute nightmare! She's constantly putting her down, being genuinely horrible most of the time for no reason! It's really getting my Dd down and so insecure it's horrible to watch... I've been holding my tongue for so long it's driving me mad! I'm good friends with the girls mother so it's highly awkward! But this girl is pushing all the wrong buttons 🤬 AIBU and should just leave them to it both 15 Yo or do I have a word and risk both friendships, when they get on they are like sisters but when the other girl is horrible it's unbearable?!__

My dd is only 13 but we’re seeing the horrible side of some teenage girls. I would talk to your daughter, work on building her confidence and her boundaries. She’s going to come across a lot of horrible people in her lifetime so she needs the skills to deal with them. It’s awful watching them struggle and as a mum you want to fix it.

I'm doing all this for her, she knows what the other girl is doing and knows its wrong but she can't just let her go I'm feeling stuck.

Teenagers, as a demographic (I know there are exceptions to the rule), are arseholes - I say this as a parent of a 14 yr old.

At 15 sadly you’re going to have to just let them sort it out between them.

If they were 5 you’d have a point

This is why many try to raise their children, girls especially to have strong self esteem and therefore wouldn’t let themselves be treated so poorly.

One thing you should do is try to build her up, as if she is so passive with a friend she is likely to also be passive with boys/men in future which will be a whole lot worse

Broadly you have to let them sort it out and keep bolstering your Dd encourage other friendships and activities. Not easy I know.

However if something nasty was said or done within my earshot or vision I would have no issue calling it out in a way that won’t embarrass your Dd. Do you think that’s possible? Even something like “bit much dd friend”