To move

[kidsmom3]

Long story short. I recently divorced and live in temporary flat, untill april. Teenage daughter still go to same private School, in with she socially always has had a hard time, But public schools here are awful and she wont move to other school around here. She has anxiety and attends about 70 % of the time. Good grades. I cooporate Well with school etc.
I have a son, now 19. He has been in a lot of crap with drugs (not crimes) and 2 years ago he finally Got help - 2 hours by train from here. He Got clean, Got his shit together and Got in Education again, But stayed 2 hours away.
I have Family and friends 1 hour from where i live. Work from Home.
Now my daughter and son ganged up on me and is trying to persuade me to move where son is.
Daughter want new school, But not here. Want to be near brother, who always had a lovely Bond together. I have always, in spite of his problems, also always maintained a lovely relationship with son.
I am tempted. Easy to find lovely Home there. Dont know quality of schools.
Is this mad? I feel like i have nothing to keep me here, as everybody is 1 hour away, anyway. And i miss my son, who wont come back, as he has a good life with clean friends, NA, etc.
Dont know if i missed information. Just cant stop thinking of Living close to my son again..

From your post I can't see a reason not to move, am I missing something?

I dont know if i am missing something 😂 obviously i am getting further away from my Family and friends. Dont know anybody But my son there. Daughter know what she Got in School - not what she is getting . And i do operate Well with this School.
I feel bad about moving away from my mom (76 years )

I'd stay near your mum and keep her in the school. Your son can move nearer if he wants. You are the adult here.

Ah I missed the bit about friends etc an hour away. There must be a compromise but honestly for now I would prioritise your DD and her education, whatever that means.

I have to travel for my DD13 private school, she needs small class sizes and good pastoral care.

There is private schools there. And she is the one wanting to move. She never liked this School - But other schools here is crap..

Your son chose to move 2 hrs away and stay there so if he's suddenly decided that he wants to be near you and his sister why doesn't he just move back? It feels like that would be an easier solution than you leaving family, friends, your mum and your daughter's supportive school.

Your daughter is thinking the grass is greener elsewhere but with 70% attendance she obviously has significant school anxiety and there is no guarantee that a new school will be as supportive or that she'll like it, settle, make friends.

What happens if your son moves again? You and dd are in a part of the country that you have no connection to.

I would only move if I knew I'd be happy there even if my son moved.

He wont come back to this area because this is here he was using drugs. He love Living there. Has good School and good friends. He want to stay.
He is visiting me/Family about a weekend a month - i assume we all Can do that.
I dont particularly like Living here.. it is rough. But cant move closer to Family as it is very expencive area.
Daughter is the one pushing for move. With help from brother.. a Big part of me really want to go.

How easily can you still see / support your mom if you move? Has she got anyone else?

It Will be 1 1/2 hours away from my mom. My sister lives near her. And i have signed up for rental appartement in her neighborhood - But nothing for 3-4 years. I will stay on that list. (Not uk)