Am I being overly sensitive?

[Middleagedplomp]

DM collects DD from school where she stays for an hour each day until I get home from work. Before Reception year, DD was looked after by DM three days a week week. DD was unwell last week and needed time off school. Fever, sore throat etc. I took the subsequent days off the but the first day of sickness, I asked DM if DD could come to her as she is unwell. First thing my DM said will she be okay to go up the town. I said no of course not, she’s ill. I just felt miffed that that was her first thought!

YABU.

If your daughter was that sick, presumably you or your partner would have looked after her yourself.

Be grateful for the free childcare at short notice.

Yes, you're being ridiculous.

Presumably, your DM had plans in town and would have needed to take DD along. If she was too ill then DM couldn't have her because she would have needed to cancel her plans. It's a completely reasonable and sensible question.

Maybe your DM had some errands to run and wanted to know if your DD was well enough to accompany her or if she'd need to rearrange her plans for you.

Wow your poor mum!!

If your child is unwell then either you or the child's father should take time off work to look after her. Your mother does enough as it is.

She asked, you said no. Not a big deal IMO (unless she ignored you and then took her into town anyway).

Massive overreaction to someone who is providing you with free childcare

Good God are you serious?

Be grateful your DM is prepared to look after a sick child. Most have to take time off work. Also a bit of fresh air can help, and perhaps DM had other things to do, hence wanting to go to town.

Your mother has a life you know, and it's not her responsibility to care for your child. Fucking hell, the sense of entitlement is staggering.

Thanks everyone for the clear views. For context, my DM knew my DD was ill the afternoon and previous and had said that she could stay with her. I took all subsequent days off and I didn’t react to the town question, just felt a bit miffed by it.

YABU. She’s given you years of valuable child care and continues to assist you every weekday. I’m 59, fit and healthy. I love caring for our preschool grandchild one day each week but 3, for years, would floor me.

Some people don’t know how lucky they are. Instead of thinking about yourself, buy your mum some flowers.

YABU

This has to be one of the most ridiculous threads I’ve seen on here for some time

of course you’re being overly sensitive

You are being ridiculously over sensitive. It was just a question.

Miffed by the question, why?

Being too ill to go to school and learn for an entire day, can be completely different to popping into town.

YABU. Your Mother has a life, and sounds like she has always been exceptionally helpful to you in the past - with 3 full days child care, and now Monday to Friday school pick-ups. That is an extraordinary load for any grandparent. I presume she was asking if she was mildly unwell or very unwell as she had plans to do something in town before your call to take daughter on that same day. Hope you have something very significant planned for her Christmas stocking!