Making fertility presumptions?!

[Blubell1981]

This could be me just being sensitive. We had a lot of heartbreak trying for our baby & eventually had a little girl with I was age 39.

I went for a sports massage yesterday & the therapist asked me to fill in a form, they said "some bits won't apply to you anymore, like that bit". It said "could you be pregnant/breastfeeding?"

Am I being a sensitive Sally or is that presumption a little, well....rude! Women can have babies older than my current age (41!). I felt a little embarrassed & daren't discuss my daughter as didn't want them knowing I'd recently had a baby when they didn't think it would even be an option now!

That is a bit rude. I had my last child at 42!

Definitely rude and ageist.
I'm 45 and happily discuss my 1 year old DS.

Was she/he 12?
Ridiculous thing to say to you. Don't dwell on it.
My mum was 42 when I was born.

Wow. I would feed that back to them some how.

I had DD2 at 41 and am breastfeeding her at 42 so not sure what they'd make of me! Massively unnecessary to make that comment and I'd flag it to them

Very odd!

"I think you'll find it is up to me which parts of the form don't apply to me anymore, thank you."

Then I'd probably take my money and uterus elsewhere. Cheeky bitch. YANBU.

I wouldn’t like that either. Plus, massage is such an intimate thing that I don’t think I’d be able to fully relax into it if I didn’t feel comfortable with the person. I’d have been tempted to cancel, however much I’d been looking forward to the massage.

I'm 42, breastfeeding my DD and I'm pregnant, so that particular tick box would most certainly apply to me. I haven't found any issue with being an 'older mum' - there's a tonne of people in my position (as witnessed on this thread), so it's nothing special. I know it was very insensitive, but you have a choice of either letting it go, or writing an email of complaint - depends how you feel.

It is rude, but I think it was just that person and not a typical assumption. I am 52 now and generally I am still asked if I could be pregnant in these type of scenarios.

Very rude. Please tell her! It might help the service for you and also will stop her doing it again (hopefully).

I let lots of things like that go as there's usually no bad intent, just thoughtlessness but I think I'd have had to have said something there and then.

Thank you all for you lovely replies and making me feel like I wasn't just being overly sensitive as I sometimes can be.

I wish I'd said something at the time now.