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Rosebel · 05/11/2022 22:37

I am very lucky because I work in a job that I love 95%of the time. DS goes to nursery while me and DH work. He does cry briefly at drop off but generally enjoys nursery.
Given he is happy and I am happy why do I feel crushing guilt and like I'm missing out? Why do I feel awful for putting him in nursery when he enjoys it? Why do I feel so guilty for being at work and not with DS? DH doesn't feel guilty so why do I.
It probably doesn't help that DS is going through a very clingy stage with dad and the rational side of me knows this would happen even if I was a SAHM but there is a little part of me thinking he's clingy to dad because I leave him so often.
I know mum guilt is really common but is there actually a way to get rid of it. I absolutely treasure time with my son and am considering asking to do half a day once a week (I already have Fridays off) but then I worry about being seen as uncommitted at work.
Tell me these feelings are really normal and if you managed to ditch the guilt how did you do it.

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jugglerofballs · 05/11/2022 22:39

Totally normal. Still trying to overcome it and mine is 5.

Hankunamatata · 05/11/2022 22:43

Women have built in guilt especially around kids.

theyalsoserve · 06/11/2022 02:17

My first clearly adored nursery and I still felt guilty! Perhaps because I knew I needed the break too but honestly, we do just worry so...

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