DIY-crazy DH

[Diyister]

DH wants to do all kind of DIY projects, basically everything in the house. Not just little projects, also ones that take months to finish (when you only have weekends to work on them). We also have a lot of unfinished projects around the house.

But I don't like DIY and would happily pay someone to do these. I always get comments how I'm not helping enough/ project would finish faster if I help. We both earn good money, and I would rather get someone to do these things, and have more time to enjoy life. AIBU?

If he likes doing the projects then he is enjoying life, isn’t he? You just both have different ideas of fun. Do you have hobbies/friends to see at the weekends while he’s doing his projects?

Fuck that for a bag of badgers.

“DH feel free to crack on with xyz, I know you enjoy it. As you know, I don’t enjoy it so will spend my free time doing things I find more interesting. Please have x done by xx date and y done by yy date if you’re serious about doing it yourself. I’ll call the the painter/plumber if you haven’t had time by them as obviously it can’t be left forever.”

YANBU!

He's more than welcome to do it if he enjoys it, but surely it'd also move along much quicker if you hired a professional too? 😂

But does he ever finish a job and what's the standard like?

As someone who’s DP calls a screwdriver ‘the turns thing’ YABU.

He’s happy.

But maybe agree that he finishes one thing before starting another.

I hate DIY and would happy to pay someone to do it, but DW has too much confidence in my abilities and hates paying anyone to stuff around the house. It always ends up in arguments as my skills don’t meet her expectations. If he enjoys doing it and has a decent job of it, maybe give him a deadline to get something finished then say you will get someone in to finish it. Might hurry him along. I agree its unfair to get get you to help tho.

I'd Let him crack on but the deal would that there can only be one unfinished project at any one time.

Otherwise it's just a trail of destruction

@AmandaHoldensLips standard is good, mostly. There's some things that haven't aged well or turned out as good as I'd like, but mostly good standard.

When I remind on the unfinished things, it's nagging. But the rule of no new project until old one(s) finished, is good.

I have in the past ordered some help, just to get things moving.