Guilt over chasing for CM

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Ex has always paid the bare minimum he can get away with while making a song and dance about the usual prosecco and nails lifestyle (I do neither, nor professionally have my hair dyed, drive a banger etc but I go out socially 5 times a year lol)
He has never provided either child with any extras, paid for clubs, trips or uniforms. He does however live in a nice house, him and partner each have their own vehicles, holiday once a year usually in UK but occasionally aboard with the children from their relationship but never mine (because I take them and unfair if my kids get 2 holidays and their kids one)
In the 2 years has really messed about late payments.
I only have one child now that has CM to be paid for the other is away at Uni. It is clear to me that they have had to tighten their belts considerably over the last year overstretched or simply COL I don't know but I feel so guilty that by demanding he pay up knowing that his other children may have to do without.
I have a low income I don't have many outgoings now so I'm able to provide for them.
Why do I feel like the bad guy in all this?

Is he paying anything? Check on the calculator if your entitled to much as they have kids there it knocks your entitlement down

Would he think the same if the shoe were on the other foot?

Don't feel guilty, he has an equal responsibility towards all of his children.

How long till he needs to stop paying CM for your youngest child?

I'm guessing he doesn't financially support his child who is at uni?

If he keeps messing you around you can get the CMS to collect the money on your behalf.

Parents should pay for their children regardless of their circumstances. It took me 7 years to get anything for mine and it’s not a lot at all, the father isn’t well off so I know I get what he can afford and he’s had to borrow to pay me sometimes too, but I don’t feel bad, I don’t have the choice not to pay, neither should he.

Don't worry he makes sure he gets all the relevant deductions from CM he's savvy and wouldn't miss a trick lol.
Just the last 2ish years its either short but a few quid, a couple of months where missed completely or its late.

No nothing for son at Uni, and DS2 is 16 so 2 years left. Sees them regularly but money has always been a thing for him always been skint but on the face of it spends like he isn't. One of the reasons our marriage failed.

Your children have suffered over the years a with his dicking about over payments
Did he think about his own children

@Brainfogmcfogface you're right of course you are. I wouldn't think twice about putting a school blazer on a credit card if needed because I HAVE TOO.

You feel bad because you were married to him and you were therefore subjected to his unreasonable behaviour. The kids will learn (if they haven't already) what the situation is. However what I would say is that each time he mentions how you spend your money, just tell him to STFU. I guess the only reason you could feel guilty is because you aren't going to CPS each time he doesn't pay for his child on time.

I have no time for a man like him. He has kids and he should be paying towards their upkeep. Instead he is telling you I am a bit short, not paying some months ect. Meanwhile him and has new partner are probably living in a nicer house, not driving an old banger and can afford better holidays, days out and trips away. Meanwhile your trying to support a child in college and a 16 year old.
Is he self employed by any chance? If he has a ltd company he has to send accounts to companies House each year. Can you see him on FB or social media?

See if you can get his business accounts and have a look at what he is posting on FB.
A guy taking £20,000 a year from a business before tax can't afford the expensive holidays, watches ect.
I do some digging on her as well because she could be living well on his undeclared tax income also.
If you get a bit of dirt you could say it's strange how you and her can afford X but you can't make your cm payments? Say something like was I telling you X got a job in the tax office and see how he reacts. You might hit a nerve that you can use to your advantage.
A tax audit means they look at everything. If his is under declaring income he will owe that and more and they keep a close eye on his business long term.
I knew a woman he told her cheating husband who was mean during a divorce - you can deal with me or the tax man your choice. She showed him what she found out about him and suddenly she was getting what she wanted. He did not want the tax man looking into things.

Take him for every penny you get.

Do the kids have anything to do with the twat or do they ignore him?