How to get balance in my life? Do you have it?

[BurntOutBusyBee]

Exactly that ^ for those of you who have balance in your life how do you manage?

My life is as follows:

• Currently work 30hrs but back full time in a new, more stressful role as of next week. Better for my career and more money (was 19k part time but will be 32k full time now) but still stressful
• one toddler
• currently retraining which is one evening a week and then next 2 years will be 1 full day pw plus placement 3 hrs a week
• a 2nd casual job taken on last year due to COL and childcare fees/retraining costs but I don't strictly need to do this anymore but wouldn't want to leave people high and dry so trying to stick it out this academic year
• social life 2 times a week or so
• see family
• try support my parents as a carer for grandparent

I need to lose a stone and build exercise up again in and amongst all of this and I'm not sure how I haven't considering I don't have time to eat on paper lol

Drop your second job

there are only so many hours in a day

you must be away from your child a lot?

I mean she’s only awake for 12 hours per day - you work two jobs, socialise

so that’s hardly any family time

Sounds like you have a lot of balance! In terms of variety in your day to day. Way more then me

I have 2 under 3 I have a social life once a month if that sometimes I'm currently on mat leave so all my time is taken up with both kids who aren't in nursery

Out twice a week seems a lot. I think you are doing really well to manage that.

No idea. Tell me when you find out how. I work 60+ hours a week, dh averages around 70 but up to 100 hours a week in summer (we live abroad) we've had no days off together since February and I barely get a full day a week with toddler ds. I hate it but we are stuck because we can't financially leave our jobs.

@Quitelikeit I have a manic set of weekdays. So when she gets home from nursery 3- 4 days a week I am able to be there for tea time/bathtime and bed time. Then I go out and do all those things ^^ weekend, I don't ever book anything in except helping at my grandmas and usually try to time it for naps or early morning or evening. It means I have zero down time though.
So to answer the question I do get to see her more or less the same as DH. I also was lucky to have been able to have a year mat leave With her and be part time for a year with her up until next week when I go full time again! (She's 2). I am also incredibly lucky that she's with my parents twice a week and nursery 2 days (soon to be 3 when I go f/t)

@Scotabroad24 That sounds incredibly tough! Is your DC with family or childcare? I have no answers for you, but the only thing I do try and do is make sure we do one, child centred fun thing each weekend where we're both fully present and can focus on DD. I also make sure I try and get assignments done and other stuff in evenings so I don't miss her too much. There isn't enough time in the day!