AIBU to think my mum is a PITA.
Every Christmas/Birthday my mum asks me what I want what my child wants as a present. Not unusual in itself but she wants minute details to the point I’m basically doing her gift shopping as well as mine. I would just buy my own things and send her the bill but she will often object to what I have chosen and tell me to choose something else. It’s exhausting and completely joyless and makes me dread Christmas and birthdays.
the final straw is when she asked me to measure my 2 year olds body for clothes even though I told her what size to get, is she completely insane? I’m lucky if I manage to shoehorn clothes on him at the best if times measuring him is a real stretch!
I have repeatedly said that the gifts are ‘grannies choice’ but she’s still called me 7-8 times with questions about which/what/what size etc.
For DHs birthday she even told me what my MIL was buying him because they had been comparing notes- I’m pretty sure MIL intended it to be a surprise so that surprise was ruined.
For my 40th she send me a bank transfer and a brief of what to go shopping for. I.e it had to be done sentimental jewellery I’d wear for life. 9 months later I haven’t had time to go shopping for this. If I get some time off the last thing I want to do is go to the shops.
I work full time, have no family support locally and my DH goes away regularly with the army so have quite a bit on. My mum doesn’t offer to come and held me with anything.
Id rather no gift at all than all this hassle!
rant over, oops.