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Friend twisting story AIBU to want to set the story straight

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Nettie100 · 05/11/2022 11:12

Myself and a friend had been friends for a number of years with children the same age. There was the usual squabbles growing up between children or so I thought. As my daughter got older it got worse. Name calling, exclusion and cyber bullying where she was added into group chats to be ridiculed. I went to my friend a number of times but nothing changed it got worse if anything.
The last straw happened when my daughter showed me messages where she was called horrific names by a number of girls in a group chat. I went to my friend again and was told it was the pair of them in it. No acknowledgment even though I had the messages. She hasn’t spoken to me since. I did message asking what the issue was as we have mutual friends and I felt it was uncomfortable for everyone but she just said there was no issue.
Months down the line I haven’t heard from these mutual friends either. I know she has twisted the story to suit her narrative and made me and my daughter look the bad ones.

Should I take the high road and say nothing or confront these ‘friends’. I feel they would just do what she is doing and say there is no issue when there clearly is. I feel alienated and made to feel the bad guy when I think I did what any mother in my situation would do.

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phishy · 05/11/2022 11:17

Is ex-friend’s dc of the girls/boys sending nasty messages to your dd?

Rational me says to just block and delete all of them.

Vengeful me would screenshot the nasty messages and post them in a group chat, tell them they should be shamed of themselves of condoning bullying.

Keyansier · 05/11/2022 12:03

If you haven't heard from your friends then how do you know the other friend has twisted the story, or even spoken to them about it? Did you ask them?

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