To think this is a good christmas idea for my husband?

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My child is 10 months old at Christmas and i'm trying to think of an idea to get my husband 'from my son' for his first christmas as a dad.

He doesn't want a new wallet, doesn't wear watches, doesn't have any giftable hobbies such as golf etc. and i bought him a keyring and photoframe of him and our son for his birthday.

My husband is however an occasional whisky drinker. I thought about buying two nice crystal personalised whisky glasses (one for husband and one for son) and a bottle of whisky in a wooden box. Then add a note 'from my son' to basically say 'Daddy save this whisky until my 18th Birthday so we can share a drink when I come of age'.

Of course the whisky in this gift is the least important part - it doesn't matter if they drink water, wine, whisky or coca-cola. It was more a sentimental idea for my son and husband to have a special moment (My husbands dad was not around so he is desperate to ensure he is a big part of our childs life - so having the moment 'booked in' for his 18th birthday would be the most important part for my husband).

However, is this pathetic? Is it bad to buy whisky from a not even 1 year old? Am I buying something to cause an 18 year anti-climax if my son refused to partake when he's 18?

Or is it a sweet gesture that my husband will love now, and likely get forgotten about when my son is 18 so it doesn't matter at all?

I feel your pain on buying for the men in your life

It's a posh person thing to lay down wine or port when a baby is born. We drank some 1979 port put down in this way at my poshest friend's wedding. I guess whisky is even better?

I think it’s lovely :)

We are very much not posh aha! the whisky unfortunately will not be top shelf stuff aha!

Tbf i think he'd be happy with me laying down two bottles of Corona - it's more just the 'sharing of a drink with his adult son' moment i wanted to give.

I think it's a lovely idea. Don't over think the 'what ifs'.

That’s such a lovely idea! Do it!

I was with you up until Corona

A nice margarita on the other hand, but I don't think it would keep 😄

Personally, I think it's a fairly sweet idea, but it's only really worth doing if you can afford a properly good high quality whisky. It might seem a bit odd, in 18 years' time, to have a basic bog standard one that's been sitting in a cupboard for 18 years.

Why not just get a nice 'world's best dad' mug or something, and matching dad and son tshirts? It would probably be just as nice, and something they can wear and enjoy now.

Yeah OP there's no real what ifs here. Fantastic idea, get on etsy and order something now!

I think it's a really sweet idea OP.
My only tiny niggle is this bit "My husbands dad was not around so he is desperate to ensure he is a big part of our childs life - so having the moment 'booked in' for his 18th birthday would be the most important part for my husband"
It's not likely to upset your DH is it, or put it into his head that he may not be around to share this moment?
Just thinking about a friend who's father passed away at a young age and he was anxious about getting to/past that milestone.
Please disregard and get the lovely gift if this doesn't apply though!

Definitely do it! I know someone whose Dad did this when he was born, also not posh, and the wine was undrinkable when they opened it the morning of his 18th birthday.
It's a happy laughing memory he has with his Dad, along with years of slagging about not trusting him to get the drinks in, and that's what matters.
Giving your DH the anticipation of this is the best part of the gift, the actual drink doesn't matter!

I think it’s a lovely idea and do it if your partner would like it.

As you’re asking opinions I would not personally want to get a gift like that, as to me it would feel like tempting fate, but I am of a somewhat anxious disposition.

We have a bottle of whisky given on DDs Christening for her 18th.

I’d just give the whiskey and two glasses, no mention of sharing a drink at 18.

It's a lovely idea!

I wouldn't necessarily expect it to actually happen, or to happen with that exact whisky (maybe in 10 years you'll feel a bit more flush and replace it with fancy whisky). It's just a nice sentiment and that's the point.

I probably fall with the no posts. What can they enjoy together now - because tomorrow is never guaranteed.
That and the idea of a dusty bottle stored for 18 years would put me off.

But it is your opinion that counts.

Agree just get the whisky tumblers from your son.

And/or something they can enjoy together now - matching PJs or tshirt or world's best dad or something

Great idea! Could be lucrative, too, if a tradition…. Buy one for your DS, too…
news.stv.tv/north/dram-house-son-sells-28-years-of-birthday-whisky-to-buy-home

Sounds like a lovely idea for your DH's first Christmas as a Dad.

I wouldn't like it. Its tempting fate. And also he won't be able to use it for 17+ years!

Personally, I don't like the idea. It's the suggestion that at 18 your DS should start drinking spirits. But that's just me.

I made my DC's dad a mug with photos on which he has treasured over the years.

Also you don't know what your 18 year old or DH will be like then. If they drink heavily at that age you wouldn't want to be encouraging it.

I’m going to go slightly against the grain here
I understand what you’re trying to do and the sentiment is lovely

But I disagree with the PPs who say there is no ‘what ifs’
Theres always what ifs involved in life.

Your son may never drink, not everyone does.
He may not like whiskey
There may be a million other reasons who a planned drink in 17 years time can’t go ahead. And for someone who is desperate to share moments with their child because of their own experiences, it could lead to future upset

My suggestion would be to buy a personalised ‘Dad’ glass from DS.
By the whiskey from yourself.

DH can enjoy using his Dad glass for years to come
He can tell your son it was a gift from the first Christmas etc

and in years to come perhaps he’ll buy his son the matching glass for his 18th
Maybe it’ll be a pint glass, coke glass, or coffee mug

But at least that way if your son doesn’t want to drink whiskey at 18
Nobody is let down by it

Could you get the glasses but instead of getting him the whiskey now, do an IOU note from your son to his dad with a drink of his choice once your son turns 18. That also takes the pressure off it being alcohol based if your son doesn't want to drink alcohol, but any other drink of choice.

How about a personalised photo collage canvas prints. There’s quite a few websites that do lots of nice places online at a range of prices.

I think it’s lovely. I did the same thing when mine were younger. It was a very special bottle of something or other (long ago now so can’t remember) to be opened on our child’s eighteenth birthday. Unfortunately my (now) ex became an alcoholic and secretly drank it long before the 18th birthday came 😕 If your husband doesn’t have a drink problem then I’d say go ahead.