To refuse my daughter a play date?

[HooverIsAlwaysBroken]

Bit of a long one…

DH has a serious health condition so cannot help as much around the house as we would like. I usually do almost everything whilst working full time and doing almost all child related stuff. This week I seem to have caught some awful bug and have been trying to work from home (with breaks just lying down) and taking loads of paracetamol to be able to do the school run.

DD (12) has swimming today, DH is taking her and she has asked to bring a friend home. I have said no as the flat is a tip, the only thing I want to do is to lie down and I also do not want to give whatever germs I have to her friend.

But DD is devastated, she said she is always going to friends house and she really want her to come over. She said I could sleep upstairs. I still said no.

I am pretty sure that I am doing the right thing, but she is just so upset. AIBU? If not, would help to have some supportive comments.

You are all being so kind. It is a relief to talk about it, I usually don’t.

minimalme, that sounds very hard as well. It must be so tiering for you during the week 💐. I probably phrased it wrong, DH wants to be with me but sometimes he finds the children too much. His condition was a shock, it is deteriorating. He tries to do what he can (work and taking the children out sometimes), but there are things he physically cannot do and it makes him depressed. He loves having a coffee or a glass of wine with me alone, but I am often juggling my new job, the children and the housework and trying to keep cheerful for everyone is exhausting.

mycatisannoying we are not brilliant with play dates but have a friend over about every other week (sometimes the children takes turns, sometimes one friend each ). We try to let them just hang out but also offer baking, pizza, some crafts, just to make it a little bit extra. It is just that this particular girl hasn’t been over (I have taken her to the park with DD for a play and ice cream). However, I don’t think the mum would thank me if she came down with what I have though.

I will have some tea with honey and some more paracetamol and see if I can deal with some cleaning, at least go over the bathroom and the kitchen slightly. And I will promise the children pizza this evening if they Hoover and tidy - and DD can change their sheets.

I hope you feel better soon

I just thought I would update… I eventually started to feel better but spent much of that weekend in bed. Overall, I think I need to change something (I have had a horrible headache today, probably a tension headache) so will look into yoga.

But we have the girl over this Sunday (she was busy last weekend) and DD is very happy. I have bought ingredient so they can make cupcakes if they want, if not, they can just hang out or watch some tv. DD is very happy 😃