Four year olds wwyd

[YoNoSoyMarinero]

Nc.
My little boy has just told me he wishes he were a girl.

He goes to a tiny rural school and is in a class with mixed ages, but the group he's with the most is his own year group. He's the only boy.

One of the girls said he can't play with them because he's a boy. This means he's on his own. He's four ffs. I've already spoken to the school about it.

Wwyd?

*sex not sec!

I would move his school. I wouldn't be happy with my child being in a year group with such a pronounced gender imbalance.

Well I wasn't bothered at first, I had thought it would be good for him if you see what I mean.

what would I do?

not start a thread on AIBU of all places for a start.

In terms of my son, I wouldn’t give the “gender” dimension another thought but I would address with teacher that son being left out

In a class of mixed ages? How mixed and are you in the UK?

Reception to year 2. Yes uk.

I started a thread for advice.

As I said I don't mind who he is in a class with, but it's when they exclude him based on his sex that I become concerned. If they want to exclude him because he was unkind, that's one thing, but based on his sex is quite another, I think.

It's unusual for 4 year olds to bother what sex they are playing with. That sort of thing is usually a few years away.

The teacher just needs to make sure everyone is being nice to to each other and not excluding anyone.

Nah I wouldn’t worry about that per se.

i personally would be worried about my reception 4 year old in the same class as a x xx year 2… 7 year old

Whatever you do

Pleas don’t attempt a deal and meaningful with your 4 year old about gender

@Ohyoucutie

i personally would be worried about my reception 4 year old in the same class as a x xx year 2… 7 year old

Quite normal in rural schools and no choice if you don't like it

I’d talk to the teacher asap and not let it drop because he is being bullied. But longer term I’d really try to move him. Being the only boy is only going to get worse for friendships as he gets older. The wants to be a girl thing I would take as him saying he wants to fit in at school and not be excluded, nothing more.

How the heck does tea her balance a 4 year old reception stupid, perhaps only just turned 4, with an almost 8 year old September born year 2 student??

Sorry typos!! But hope you get my gist…

Ohyoucutue I don't think I really understand.
What concerns me is he is dissatisfied with himself based on this. He's blaming his own sex for being excluded. That hurts and it is setting a standard.

The conversation I had with him was, "she is wrong to exclude you. Tell her so, and tell the teacher."

Year 2 children are 6 going on 7, not 8.

Tell her so, and tell the teacher."

at 4, if he is upset, you should advocate to the teacher.

Yep, I have. They told me it's sorted.

He's blaming his own sex for being excluded

poor thing is only boy in his “class” at any age when they realise there are differences between girls and boys. Tough.

i wouldn’t have him at the school. But presumably if there - it’s because you live very rurally and no other option at all?

Really not a school that seems to have much going for it for your son op

Is there anything you can do to nurture friendships between him and the other kids in his class? A party, playdates etc?

As far as his feelings go I would treat it like any other feeling, validate and name without necessarily trying to fix. 'It can be really hard being the only boy, huh? You must be feeling lonely/left out. I bet you wish you could play with the other girls without feeling different'.