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To send a thank you card to consultant?

21 replies

tosendacard · 04/11/2022 15:14

She works in a sexual health clinic, she’s been seeing me monthly for about six months - supporting me with very specific trauma symptoms following a sexual assault and abuse in childhood . She’s absolutely wonderful and has helped me to achieve several things that would have been previously ‘impossible’ . Taught me how to advocate for myself and how to put myself first .

She’s also sat and listened without judgement, believed me and supported me enormously, and worked with my GP to make sure I’m referred to the appropriate services for my needs for the future . I think she said she has a lot of very specialist training/ experience .

I’m in no doubt that she’s changed my life for the better - I’ve never had good, positive feelings about sex or my body before and now I do .

Comparatively to three years ago when I needed a smear and had to be given diazepam to be able to go through with it, and absolutely couldn’t entertain the idea of ever having a sexual relationship .

I should be getting discharged next month, and want to give her a card and a box of chocolates for the clinic - but not sure if that would be weird? I don’t know what I’d write .

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LeMoo · 04/11/2022 15:17

I don't think its weird at all. Really good doctors can be hard to find so when one makes a difference its a worth telling them.

Just keeping simple and sincere.

I'm sorry you've been through such an awful time and glad things are improving Flowers

Wishiwasalittlebitsmaller · 04/11/2022 15:17

I think a version of what you have written here would mean the world to them. How amazing to be able to help someone as they have. I am sure it would be received very well. And congratulations on your progress.

Nyancat · 04/11/2022 15:18

A card is totally appropriate and clinics always appreciate chocolate. DH is a consultant and gets the odd card from patients - he has kept every single one of them throughout his career, they are really appreciated.

USaYwHatNow · 04/11/2022 15:18

I would send a personal card to the consultant and then something generic to the clinic if you felt you wanted to. I'm a midwife (and very sentimental!) I appreciated cards so much when I worked clinically and still look at them now.

USaYwHatNow · 04/11/2022 15:19

I would just write pretty much what you've said here? Thank you for listening to me and believing me and how you feel your life has changed for the better thanks to her input?

shreddiesandmilk · 04/11/2022 15:32

Please do! We use it in our portfolios and I keep every card given to me by patients and appreciate every one

Holdonwharaboutthewaffles · 04/11/2022 15:42

Do it, surprisingly not many people say thank you to consultants. It will make her day.

SalviaOfficinalis · 04/11/2022 15:44

Not weird at all.
Write something like what you’ve written here, or whatever you feel comfortable with.
I’m sure she’ll appreciate it.

user1474315215 · 04/11/2022 15:44

Definitely do it. I worked in a different public facing profession and really really appreciated cards from clients.

LakieLady · 04/11/2022 15:44

I think it would be a lovely thing to do.

I occasionally get a "thank you" card from clients, and it really makes me feel appreciated.

Umbrellabee · 04/11/2022 15:54

Not weird at all! It will be very much appreciated!

Curioushorse · 04/11/2022 15:55

They'll treasure that card. Send it.

tosendacard · 04/11/2022 19:01

Thank you, I’ll get one before my next appointment . She is absolutely brilliant . Six months ago I remember saying to my GP, this will be a waste of time - tried the same therapy three times before and it’s never helped much - am so glad I tried again with someone new, it’s made such a huge difference .

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Itloggedmeoutagain · 04/11/2022 19:03

Doesn't matter who someone is or what they've done, it's never wrong to say thank you

carefulcalculator · 04/11/2022 19:14

I think it is standard to thank people who genuinely help, I do it. I would keep your card quite simple in message - this person knows what specifically they did, you can just say you genuinely appreciate their help.

Sunshine222 · 07/11/2022 15:55

Not weird at all , I had a nice gynaecologist nurse who went over and above for me because of my trauma I sent her a thank you card

MegGriffinshat · 07/11/2022 16:10

I sent a consultant a thank you card last year. He went above and beyond for me.

He phoned me when he received it and said it means the world to him when he knows he has made a difference and delivered his best work.

zingally · 07/11/2022 16:43

I sent my consultant a thank you card after my eye surgery.

The surgery really improved my quality of life, and although the recovery was slow, he did an excellent job.

itsjustnotok · 07/11/2022 16:45

OP I can guarantee that you will make her feel like she’s made a difference. Sometimes all we hear is how shit treatment is in the NHS. My DH always remembers and keeps anything given to him by patients who have gone out of there way to thank him. He feels privileged and is touched that they have remembered him in spite of the fact they have usually gone through such difficult times x

MarigoldPetals · 07/11/2022 16:48

People love to be thanked - it can be a massive boost to someone.
Do it OP - it’s such a kind thing to do.

Decafflatteplease · 07/11/2022 16:50

Glad things are looking up for you OP

A card would be lovely, I have a medically complex DC and we always send a card after each surgery 😊

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