To say that I only want to be at home in my slippers ?

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Pre covid I was the life and sole of any party. Always out. Short dresses. Lots of casual flirting/double entendres, always made up makeup and hair wise. I have always had a flirty personality.

I dont know whats happened but now I only want to be at home in slippers with a cuppa, type of thing. The thought of going out out fills me with dread. I've put a stone on. I no longer wear any make up or bother with my hair and as for some casual flirting - I have no interest in that what so ever.

Is this the menopause ? Im late 40's and still having regular periods. I feel very very past it. 2 years ago I walked through my local shopping mall in an outfit which I always feel (or used to feel) great in. I looked good in my heels, hair, makeup and I could see people noticed that I looked good too. Today I feel about 10-15 years older than I actually am. I look haggard. My clothes are old and tatty in parts as I struggle to get things that fit/refuse to buy bigger clothes due to the weight gain. I wear the same thing day in day out

HELP !

I’m not really clear on what you’re asking for help with? If you want to stay in, then stay in. What’s the problem?

Me too, but I'm gradually trying to clawy way out of it. My comfort eating has calmed down a bit and I actually got my hair cut last week, first time in over a year. It's mid length again and I so much better without it all long and in scraggy pony tail. I feel like I'm crawling my way back to being the old me, even though I'm not keen on going out and drinking loads, I'm happy just with my husband and child and having food out with them.

Oh goodness me too! I went out every day - to meet friends for coffee, work, shopping, makeup on and contacts in!
Now I'm showering every other day, rarely wear makeup and can't be bothered putting contacts in.
Last Autumn I was renovating and used to escape the builders by going to a couple different cafés most days, then I had a vision of myself - overweight, frumpy - and now think it's just too embarrassing.
I've even started avoiding seeing people - I didn't go to a family reunion because I knew they'd all instantly think how I'd let myself go! And I also can't be bothered doing stuff I used to enjoy. I need to snap out of it! I won't get the time back.

I'm 45 and feeling a bit like this. Sad thing is, I don't really care anymore. Maybe that is part of it. Yes I wonder if it may be hormones / perimenopause.

Me too! And I'm only mid 30s! I was looking through photos of me just yesterday from 2017 and I look like a different person! That was prehusband and kids though 😂 I've always been someone that cares what they look like, now I just want to be comfy and see doing my hair and makeup as a time consuming chore!

It’s definitely a menopause thing you lose the energy to exercise and really do anything other than just get through the day and of course all the nonessentials go out of the window.
Which them become self perpetuating I’ve also noticed that on 1300 cal a day I am not losing weight which must be to do with menopause there’s no other explanation for it

I treated myself to a pair of leather/sheepskin slippers today. They are divine and I am very happy to be at home in them

But yes, menopause for sure. I still like to socialise but only with a select few and happy with big gaps in between!

Feeling like this too but it’s quite freeing to start really not giving a shit. I quite like it.

I feel like this too. I used to be the sort of person who would turn up to the opening of an envelope if there was a glass of Prosecco on offer but now I really can't be arsed. I'm also peri menopausal. Not sure if it is that.

I don’t recognise the idea that menopause makes you care less about looking after yourself and keeping fit. I am perimenopausal and I have never been as fired up about my health and exercising as I am now. I need my 3 x weekly runs to stay sane and feel good. Now wouldn’t be the time to retreat indoors for me.

That said, I think if you don’t feel like getting dressed up to go out, don’t!

The million dollar question is do you want to change back to the way you were?
or are you content as you are?
Only you can answer -
I did something in the middle, I have good hair always, only do the exercise I enjoy therefore not a chore. I eat well but indulge when I want to. I live by my own rules and values, and I’ll do what makes me happy and comfortable. Soft leggings, cashmere socks, bras without jabbing wires, soft pants and the best body cream money can buy.
I am living for me.

How do you manage at work ? Do you dress up a little for that ? I am wondering if you dont go home from work , but go for a quick drink straight after .. would that avoid the slippers / stay in temptation … i find if i come in from work , its straight into jamas whereas if they dont get put on .. i can motivate myself more .. wd that work do you think ?