I’m one of 4. My mother has a clear favourite who is not speaking to me and not speaking to another sibling (he’s difficult but of course his behaviour is never the problem as he’s the golden child).
Due to this schism in the family, we never do things as a whole family. What my mother does instead is organise lunches and dinners etc with golden child and the brother who speaks to him. She doesn’t then organise the equivalent with me and the other brother, so it’s completely unfair, as well as utterly enabling golden child.
I’ve wasted a lot of time and effort explaining this to her. She seemed to finally understand why this was so hurtful and damaging to our relationship and then this year she decided to double down on the upset and organised a family holiday with her, GC and his girlfriend/child and my other brother. To be clear - this isn’t a situation where GC and his girlfriend are having a holiday and invited her. SHE has entirely planned and organised/invited them and the other brother along. I think the presence of the other brother is also what turns it from a grandmother accompanying a child and his family on a holiday into a “fuck you/utterly excluding” situation.
AIBU to think what’s fair is for her to then organise the same for my other brother and me? This entire situation feels like bullshit and I’ve had enough of being excluded from stuff.