Who is being unreasonable?

[Whatsinanamereally82]

A and B are splitting up but living in same house currently. B asked A if they wanted something that required to be disassembled. A said yes and B suggested they did it today. A said they had things to do in the morning and later in the afternoon but would try and get home to do it, if not would do it tomorrow. A did not come straight home from morning thing, stopped and got some shopping. Came home with an hour to spare before afternoon appointment.

B was very upset by this as they had spent time looking out the instructions for the item and felt there was not time to disassemble and pack away properly as A did not come home early enough.

A dismantled the item, B came out to help but A said they would do it themselves. The item was disassembled and mostly packed away barring 1 item which needed cleaning and drying.

B is angry with A as they feel they tried to help and A just took the piss and now has not packed the item in a way that will be easy for A to reassemble when the time comes. A doesn't understand why B is so upset. Who is BU?

B

I can't follow that. Which one are you?

That's a hard read.

At the minute you are being unreasonable with your A and B explanation.

But B sounds a bit of a drama llama.

Agreed weeOrcadian

Clearly A

B is bu. Why does it matter to them if A has made it hard for themselves in the long run?

No wonder they are splitting up. I’ve got no idea who was being unreasonable as I can’t follow it.

B is being unreasonable. A did a thing that literally only affects them and B feels pushed aside but… they’re separating and B has no claim on A’s time and no say in how A takes their furniture (or jumperoo or whatever) down to move it to their new place.
B needs to let go of A.

Why does it matter to B that A will struggle to put it back together? I'd have thought that was A's problem and B needs to give it no further thought.

It took me a while to understand what was meant by B asked A if they wanted something that required to be disassembled. I'm assuming it means B asked A if they wanted a particular household item which would have to be dismantled for transport purposes?

I think A and B both need to calm down. The sooner one moves out the better.

Just say. It's annoying AF trying to follow these.

What does it matter? You are splitting up because you clearly don’t get on. What difference does it make to either of you who’s being unreasonable?

B is being unreasonable but A sounds like they are a bit fed up with B dictating things, if A is going to reassemble it, it’s better if they disassemble usually from a practical pov.
I think you are A.

B

Clearly there was time to do it. However A was definitely making a point and that thing was probably going to get dismantled and packed even if it took all night.

Probably a good thing A and B are splitting

Apologies for the A B nonsense, I just wanted an unbiased opinion. I read it back and it was very difficult to follow! I am A. I just can't understand what I did wrong, wondered if it was just me! I never even asked for the item by the way, it was being binned otherwise.

I feel like I need to learn algebra with these.

Give them tangible names or just say who you are.

B is being unreasonable- it doesn't affect B how A had packed the item as A will be the one reassembling it.

B is unreasonable:

• A warned B that it could be tomorrow
• B did too much drama about unpacking.

Agreed. The level of obfuscation really isn’t warranted. And bottom line is - you’re splitting up. So what does it matter?? Save your emotional energy.

This is pretty spot on.

B is unreasonable. What does it matter if you've made life hard for yourself? Ridiculous.

The sooner one of you moves out the better. It’s always strained living together when you have separated.

Well yes of course you are A.

You aren't going to get an unbiased opinion because you don't understand B's perspective so you can't possibly write this in such a way that doesn't make be look unreasonable.

I suspect B felt they put a lot of effort into trying to do a proper job. A then came along and bodged it to make a point.

I never even asked for the item by the way, it was being binned otherwise

But you still said you wanted it when asked.

B asked A if they wanted something that required to be disassembled. A said yes and B suggested they did it today.

I said before B is a drama llama.

I was wrong and I have changed my mind.

Both A and B are sounding all about the drama.