Not too sure what to do, sorry it’s long. I have been in an exclusive relationship with my boyfriend for 8 months. We are mid forties, no kids and live around 40 minutes travel from each other. We both have busy jobs and work more than our hours. I also have a hobby and active social life.
We try and see each other 3 times a week - mostly once during the weekdays and try and spend a full 24 hours together at the weekend. We equally travel- both work flexibly and can do at home but he needs to be in office more. I have a pet so I am limited. He will spend both days at my house, and me 1 day at his. Work commutes can be 1:5 hrs from each other home if both in our offices.
for last 6 weeks we have seen each other 1 day. He has been tired, ill or working USA time , so till 10pm. He starts later but no use as I am work. We both have had people leave from our teams so having to pick up extra. He is very stressed and not sleeping. He said last month November will be better and back to normal working. Now he has told me he will be still working USA hours for most of November.
His texting has also reduced. He texts throughout day, but mostly about how he hasn’t slept. Not much at night as he goes straight to bed. I did say was he a workaholic? He said no, just a mad few months and it will get better. Have asked if he is losing interest and he says not at all - loves me. Says distance is hard but he says we will live together at some point so it’s only travelling for max a year more.
Last week he was training away and I had an intense week working 60 hrs on a project release which I knew was hard. I didn’t miss him ( but not too sure that was because I was so busy), he said he missed me loads. I only saw him for 5 hours that week. Was nice, but didn’t get butterflies.
However, we are off for a weeks holiday in a few weeks and we did take a few Fridays off last month to spend time together. At the start he chased me and we did see each other loads.
But the fact I didn’t miss him is worrying me - I do love him but I should be excited to see him. Do I wait it out as he promised me it would end in November? Or is this life and I put up it get out.