Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To be mentally drained and do I have OCD?

3 replies

Nymeria6 · 02/11/2022 22:46

I have struggled with depression and mental health since a small child. I'm also Dyslexic and Dyspraxic, both of which make my life hard at times for varying reasons. On antidepressants on a strong dose.

My house is old and isn't finished to the standard that I would like. First time buyer with DP and its completely broke us money wise as in can't do much more work on it for couple more years. I have high standards about certain things but then buy my coffee table that was scratched to death from a charity shop because I loved it.

My high standards are making my life hell and a misery.

I literally paint more or less 2/3 nights per week touching walls up, sanding it off if it's dried bumpy then doing it again. My DP confiscated my sanding stuff when we moved it as I was bad for doing it.

Today I decided to the doors up and skirts. Needless to say I dropped the paintbrush and paint splattered on my couch and floor. I had also not covered both like a fool. Luckily I managed to get it all off.

I then proceeded to have a meltdown and phone SIL sobbing. My MIL and SIL supported me and calmed me down.

I feel totally overwhelmed. Im anxious every single hour of every single day.

I won't let myself relax until the house looks perfect and it never does, so I never relax. I've lost interest in anything and everything. I can't remember the last time we had sex. I shout at him all the time because he's so messy and it adds to my anxiety. He works such long hours I do bulk of it all.

My house style is vintage and bit beaten down so why do I need everything to look perfect to the point of insanity.

It's never going to look perfect and that thought makes me shudder because I know I'm going to spend the rest of my life sanding walls and painting, instead of enjoying my home and DP.

Sorry for ramblings. I just don't know what to do anymore. I have attempted to end my life before and do battle with suicidal feelings. I'm just exhausted. I can't continue to battle my mental health.

OP posts:
PurpleMarie · 02/11/2022 23:17

Its time to ask for more help - professional help. Maybe you have OCD, maybe you don't, but regardless your thoughts are actively and significantly impacting your (and your loved ones) life.

You don't have to live like this, you're worthy of so much more peace. Ask for help.

SuTissue · 02/11/2022 23:33

You might do. It sounds like the type of perfectionism that can go with OCD. I can be like this about things being perfect. I did cbt and it helped. Who prescribes your antidepressant? You should tell them exactly what you have written here. Some ADs are used for treating ocd symptoms but some are not. They may switch you to a different one. But you would have to speak to a professional to get a diagnosis and a proper treatment plan. It sounds like you are in a bad place with this and I really hope you get help.

Nymeria6 · 03/11/2022 04:23

SuTissue · 02/11/2022 23:33

You might do. It sounds like the type of perfectionism that can go with OCD. I can be like this about things being perfect. I did cbt and it helped. Who prescribes your antidepressant? You should tell them exactly what you have written here. Some ADs are used for treating ocd symptoms but some are not. They may switch you to a different one. But you would have to speak to a professional to get a diagnosis and a proper treatment plan. It sounds like you are in a bad place with this and I really hope you get help.

Thanks very much. I Will speak to the GP.

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page