Please give me some kind words of encouragement, unsure what to do

[Hurrah97]

Hi everyone

Ive been chatting to a guy for around 2/3 weeks. I knew him from school but haven’t seen him for a few years. We have spoke on the phone too and we have instantly clinked, we have lots in common and he seems so lovely and genuine.

we are both single parents and I have not been on a date for 3 years. My self esteem and confidence isn’t great so I’m really struggling to find the courage to meet up with him. I’m really worried he won’t find me attractive when we meet up or that I will say or do something wrong. My anxiety is making it nearly impossible to push myself to go out with him on a date but I really don’t want to miss out on the chance. Any advice would be appreciated

The longer you put it off the harder it will be to do. Arrange to meet for coffee (morning) or maybe even breakfast 🙂 That way you won’t have all day to get nervous. Hope it goes well for you

Hey @Hurrah97 some great advice is also available in the Mumsnet Relationships board.

This is AIBU - “Am I being unreasonable?”

anyways re your post - have you already arranged to meet up? If so, go for it! He’s clearly interested in you.

if you haven’t , then the PP’s advice is sound - do a morning coffee, break the ice, see what gives

Be brave!

Or, carry on building an emotional connection that is then harder to break if one of you doesn't want to take it further...

Romantic relationships equal hearts on a plate. If you don't want to risk your heart, stop.

And just be aware that even if HE doesn't find you attractive, it doesn't mean you are not attractive.

Friends all find a particular actor attractive but I don't.

What is it you are anxious about ?

You're putting a bit too much pressure on which is why it seems so difficult and nerve wracking!

The sooner you meet for a nice cup of coffee the better. Like this weekend! Lay off any heavy virtual talk- just keep it nice and breezy till you meet up.